The Real Tragedy of Drama Queens

The real tragedy of Drama Queens

By Maria Mar(c)

When you are trapped in your habitual Soap Opera Dramas, you are self-involved to the point that you miss sight of three vital things: your surroundings, other people and your goals. Here is the real tragedy of the Drama Queen.

1. She wastes precious emotional fuel going around in circles.

2. She wastes time and resources going around in circles.

3. She alienates allies, healthy peers and healthy partners with her self-involved, ineffective and habitual dysfunctional scripts.

4. She leaks prosperity, loses clients and wastes money.

5. She adopts the pose of an ineffective, disorganized and unprofessional woman.

6. She fails to see how she is creating stress in those around her.

7. She misrepresents her business or capacity and creates situations where she will not be promoted or hired.

8. She dumps her toxic drama on her loved ones and creates terrible stress on her family, especially her partner and children.

9. She repels her children and partner, who need to move away from her in order to grow and function healthily.

10. She uses her drama to manipulate others, as an ineffective attempt to control the situation and to beg for attention.

11. She uses her power to sabotage her dream as she runs hysterically on the same spot, until she digs her own grave.

12. Because she creates high levels of stress that lead to hypertension, heart attack, muscle spasms, anxiety attacks, stomach trouble, ulcers, brain tumors, cancer, strokes and more. Make your choice.

Would you rather be a Drama Queen or act as the genuine, powerful Queen of your own life and Dream?


If you choose to be the real queen, here is one quick, easy way to stop your Drama before it catches momentum.

The minute you see yourself spinning into your Drama, say out loud to yourself: “STOP!”

Then breathe deeply and slowly. As you exhale, say firmly and clearly, without drama: “There is no drama. I am clear and there is no problem.”

As soon as you regain your center, become aware of how you have lost your compass.

  1. See how you are affecting those around you,
  2. See how you have deviated from your goal, and
  3. See how you are creating chaos or anxiety in your situation.

Now proceed to calmly re-focus on your goal or the solution of the problem, sustaining a centered, calming mood and consciously spreading it around.

Let’s say that your usual drama is losing the car keys before going out.You enter a frenzy and send everyone spinning for the keys, just to find them 20 minutes later where you have left them misplaced the night before.

The minute you see yourself spinning that drama, say “STOP” to yourself, energetically and firmly (without involving others in the drama).

Then breathe deeply and slowly. As you exhale, say to yourself: “There is no drama. I am clear and there is no problem.”

Observe how you have lost your compass: Perhaps your family is already tense at the prospect of yet another crazy moment before going out and the anticipation of being late to their appointments. Perhaps by getting into this anxiety rollercoaster, you are neglecting to check that you have what you need for today’s presentation, so that you will sabotage yourself getting there late and unprepared. Perhaps you are creating chaos and stress in your daily life by all these little dramas. RELEASE that choice and embrace Inner Peace.

Now proceed to calmly retrace your steps the last time you place your keys when you got home.

I hope this helps you!

Stop by and leave your comments as things begin to change and you occupy the throne of your true queendom!

Maria Mar(c) You can use this quote as long as you include my name and copyright mark and the paragraph below:

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Are you an Active Dreamer or a Daydreamer: A Self-assessment Tool

Are you an

Active Dreamer or a Daydreamer?

Self-assessment Tool

By Maria Mar©

“Fantasies are more than substitutes for
unpleasant reality; they are also dress rehearsals, plans. All acts
performed in the world begin in the imagination.”

Grizzuti Harrison
Author and Publicist

Well-intentioned relatives and cynical peers may call you a dreamer and ask you to wake-up. After a while, you start asking yourself if they are right and you are wrong.

Take this self-assessment tool. Add and subtract the points to find out.

1A. They are right if you dream of having lots of things, living like
the rich and famous, getting the latest sports car… and you do nothing to make it happen. (Minus 5pts)

1B. You are right if you dream of having a better quality of life,
not only better or more things, but a life with meaning, joy, comfort and prosperity, and you keep searching a way to do it that makes you happy and adds value to the world. (Plus 5pts)

2A. They are right if you keep trying the latest get-rich-quick
scheme, losing money in Pyramids and falling prey to con artists. (Minus 5pts.)

2B. You are right if you are researching, studying or strategizing to create a solid prosperity foundation in innovative ways, you seek the masters who have done it successfully and then spend time making it unique to who you are and what you have to offer. (Plus 5pts.)

3A. They are right if you dream of being an artist, writing a book or living from your passion, and spend your time talking about it… but doing nothing to make it come true. (Minus 3pts.)

3B. You are right if you dream of being an artist, writing a book or living from your passion, and you spend time talking about it in a positive manner, sharing your small successes and steps, and taking forwards steps ―even if they seem baby steps― to make it happen. (Plus 5pts.)

4A. They are right if you keep messing up because you have no
grounding, no plan, no strategy and no discipline to make your dream come true. (Minus 3pts.)

4B. You are right if you make mistakes, learn from them and keep creating new strategies and implementing them with discipline… even if you have not make it yet! (Plus 5pts.)

5A. They are right if you are going for a field, career or business
you hate and are becoming hard and closed-minded because you think only of making money, and not living life. (Minus 5pts.)

5B. You are right if you are declining the fields, careers or businesses that they believe make money, and ignoring the commonplace paths to prosperity in search for a unique path that is true to your values, talents and personality. (Plus 5pts.)

6A. They are right if you think they are right, no matter how wrong they are. (Minus 3pts.)

6B. You are right if you consult your heart, know your Soul’s
Purpose, are loyal to yourself, seek mentors and teachers who know what they are doing, and move towards your dream with 100% commitment, no matter how long it takes or how hard it seems to be. (Plus 5pts.)

Click here

to get your score results and resources for your dream.

That’s all, beautiful sisters. Let me know what you discovered. I’d like to hear your story!

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30-27 Points

27 to 24 points

24-21 Points

20-18 Points

18-15 Points

15 or less points

30-27 Points

Congratulations! You are definitely an Active Dreamer. Success is around the corner. Live your dream! It is important that you nurture your faith and commitment through consistent inspiration. You are a unique woman with strong faith and
determination. There are a lot of people who do not live their dream because of fear or lack of faith. You need to stay strong and not allow them to erode your faith.

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27 to 24 points

You are Active Dreamer, but you may be struggling alone, without adequate support around you. You need a community of dreamers who supports you. You also need to move in orbits of people who can enrich your perspective. You may
also need specific coaching with skills, success, visibility or business.

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24-21 Points

You are a dreamer who needs to seek help assessing her dream, developing a strategy and implementing it. You may also need to develop a new lifestyle. You may be taking actions towards your dream, but they are inconsistent. To shift your life, you need consistent action that is built on a plan and moves you steadily to your dream. This means two things: 100% commitment and Dream Discipline.

Commitment needs faith and self-love. Dream Discipline comes from a new set of mind habits and from healing your relationship with time. Hidden beliefs about freedom may also be causing resistance. If you are doing everything
alone, you may also need new skills.

Recommended resources:

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20-18 Points

You are a dreamer who is using fantasy to escape a life that you don’t like. There is nothing wrong with fantasy. It is the source of human innovation. But you need help in translating your imagination into action. You also need immediate guidance in tracking down the Inner Enemies of your Success(tm). If you are feeling like Penelope, who wove a beautiful fresco during the day, only to destroy it at night, you may be sabotaging yourself. The source of your self-sabotage is hidden in the folds of your Psyche. You need in-depth help to get it out into your conscious awareness, so that you stop being your own worse enemy.

Recommended resources:

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If you feel that you need someone who guides you step-by-step and helps you clean out the garbage from the past, while giving you strength. Consider two resources:

Hunt Down the Inner Enemies of your Success(tm) Private Email Consultations with Maria Mar
Exchange emails with Maria Mar to engage her in helping you track down what is going on in your life and how you are sabotaging yourself. Use this tool when you are ready to take an honest look at YOUR steps in the dance of life.

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18-15 Points

You are definitely a daydreamer. You are a creative, passionate woman who values freedom and has her own mind. But hidden in your psyche lurk old emotions gathered around toxic, negative thoughts that are eroding your self-value. You may also feel that you are alone, and therefore you do not ask for help. You resistance may be blocking the flow of the Law of Attraction!

In a way, you fear what you want. You may secretly feel that you do not deserve it, even though you keep trying to convince yourself of the contrary. No amount of talking and thinking will help, because the logical mind is sabotaging you, and you cannot bring your executive power to sustain your imagination. You will need to open a space and time for yourself and your dream if you want to get out of that rut. If you don’t want to waste anymore time and you are not willing to give up on your dream, here are two resources for you:

Recommended resources:

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You may also enjoy the
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15 or less points.

You are a daydreamer and you are weakening your capacity to manifest your dreams by using your imagination idly. After a while, your psyche does not believe you, and you waste your life in meaningless fantasies. But do not confuse what you are doing wrong with the legitimacy of your power as a dreamer. In short, the Active dreamer in you is trying to wake you up.

You are intuitively resisting the domestication of your imagination and defending your freedom and uniqueness. That means that inside you there is an Active Dreamer trying to get out and lead your way.

The problem is that you are being held back by:

  • learned beliefs that may be working in your subconscious, like feeling that success will make people dislike you or that having money will corrupt you.

  • Stagnated habits that keep you in a rut.

  • Disbelief and fear to dream, or

  • Embedded feelings carried over from childhood or trauma.

  • You seriously need to re-evaluate your beliefs and lifestyle and to release what’s keeping you from taking action.

Fantasy without strategy or action is an escape and a sign of despair. You need to build your faith and trust that your dreams can become a reality. You may also need to develop new habits of mind and to learn new skills that allow you to create a structure and strategy to manifest your dreams.

Recommended Resources:

Here’s a gradual approach to moving out of fantasy into Active Dreaming.

Step one:

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Dreamer, get an introductory
Private Coaching Session
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has brandished creative writing, arts & crafts and conscious living as a tool for life transformation and specializes in personal growth through the arts and freeing the creative process. She is known as the Dream Alchemist, revealing the Female Secrets in the Law of Attraction to help women manifest their dreams. She is the CEO of ShamansDance Publishing and Productions and the author of the Dream Kit.Visit her website at:

Assume your Personal Power with the Swan Posture

Assume your Personal Power

with the Swan Posture

By Maria Mar(c)

Do you catch yourself making yourself small, hiding your neck into your shoulders, like turtle, constricting your spine, folding your torso or hunching? This attitude leads to depression and lowers your self-esteem. It holds you back from taking action and makes you feel insufficient. It sends others the message that you do not believe in yourself. Why should them?

Whenever you realize that you are making yourself small, here is a Power Posture that will release your stature immediately, uplifting you and moving the energies that may have stagnated in your body. It will shift you from Ugly Duckling into the majestic swan you are.

My drawing below illustrates what happens to your spine and how you create back pain and disease as a result of your “Ugly Duckling” posture. Feeling small leads to standing small, which makes you small.

The Swan Posture works from the inside out and the outside in, to restore your magnificence stature. Be a Goddess!

The Swan Posture

  1. Stand with legs apart and plant your feet firmly on the floor. Keep your knees lightly flex and your feet positioned parallel to your hips.

  2. Feel your roots connecting to the roots of the Ancient Trees.

  3. Breathe slowly and deeply for three cycles: Inhalation, In-pause, Exhalation, Out-pause.

    That’s one cycle. Inhale as fully as possible, allowing your whole torso to fill with air, from your crutch to your chest. Exhale as slowly as possible.

  4. Focus your attention on your spine. Release your spine as you exhale slowly. Feel your tail being released, so that there is no contraction in your pelvis. The excessive curvature in your lower back at the beginning of the buttocks should be released and lower back pain or tension should be alleviated.

  5. Now do the same with the back of your neck. Raise the crown of your head towards the sky and stretch the back of your neck. Your chin should adjust, being parallel to the floor. When you raise your chin up, as in false pride, you actually crunch the vertebrae of your neck. Make sure you release from the back.

  6. Now raise your sternum to the sky, offering your heart in celebration of the Goddess within you. Watch out that you don’t curve the back again! You are raising the sternum to the point that you feel your torso free and light, and your chest feels proud. But not past the point that you begin getting a curvature in your lower back.

  7. Breathe deeply and bring both your arms up as if you were taking flight. Feel your majesty. Feel your power. Feel the breadth of your love.

  8. Bring your arms down gracefully, as the Queen you are.

  9. Feel yourself connected to all the elements: air, water, fire and earth. Feel how you have the power to communicate with these elements inside you and in your nature. Feel your power!

That’s it. Practice the Swan Posture until you can do it automatically in 3 minutes.

Let me know how it goes. Take a bit of time to leave me a comment about his entry, will you? It makes me feel SOOO good!

Light and love,

Maria Mar

The Dream Alchemist

For Spanish-language tips in not making yourself small, visit Corazon Tierra’s blog at:

Your Worse Enemies During Recession

The current recession creates panic through the interminable doomsday scenario exploited by the media, the asinine attitude of our leaders, who have lost sense of their mandate, and every one’s panic and confusion. This environment will instantly summon the worse enemies you could face: Your Inner Enemies. These Shadows are aspects of your psyche that carry your:

· inherited fears and fear-based myths,

· negative beliefs,

· control issues,

· toxic and pent-up emotions and

· fear-based defensive strategies

These inherited defense strategies are not efficient. They are:

· Based on fear, and therefore vibrate to fear and attract fear, making your vulnerable to sensationalism, doomsday visions, worst case scenarios and panic.

· Defensive in nature, and therefore place you in the position of victim, giving away your power.

· Learned dysfunctional reactions based on false beliefs, fears and limitations from your family of origin, community and culture.

· Addictive illusions of control that get triggered whenever you feel out of control. They are addictive because they are illusions. They are illusions because you are not in control, but in panic.

The only way to regain control over self is by a process of release that I call Free from Fear! Here are four simple steps that are part of a more complete process.

1. Accept your feelings, including fear, confusion, anger and frustration. Denying your emotions blocks the Law of Attraction and disempowers you.

2. Love and accept yourself unconditionally in spite of these feelings, without judgment. When you judge yourself you turn your anger inwards or towards your loved ones. You also feel incompetent and powerless.

3. Release your illusion of control over others. When you try to control others or your circumstances, you give your power away. You can only change yourself. Accepting that frees your energy and focuses your intention; and

4. Detach from your fear-based beliefs, embodied by your Inner Enemies. These “voices” get triggered, unleashing a series of old defensive and fear-based thoughts that can send you into a panic. Detach from these voices, the feelings and the beliefs they trigger.

Once you have gone through this process, you experience a self-centerness and empowerment that free your ability to tap into The Source. You can access your intuitive knowledge, seek useful information to make a wise decision and activate the flow of the Law of Attraction in your life.

While this process is an emotional process that may take some time, here is an easy action that you can take to neutralize those Inner Enemies that get hook up with negativity and fear and magnify the worse-case scenarios.

Spot the Trigger Words and create a Release Word

Your Shadows were created based on prejudices, limitations and experiences in your childhood or youth. They carry a lot of baggage. Whenever anyone throws a word, thought, belief or emotional scenario that triggers these inherited beliefs or attitudes, Pop! goes the Shadow. Once triggered, this Inner Enemy repeats the old beliefs, thoughts, feelings and expectations, trapping you in your inherited limitations.

Here’s what to do. As you hear news, read information, watch the presidential debates and so forth, develop your Huntress’ skills. Have an ear out for the words or scenarios that make your breath stop and trigger fear. Try to spot at least 7 key Trigger Words.

Create a Release Word that acts like a counter-trigger. This word, phrase or thought elicits your dream, faith, power and strength and emotionally dissolves the negative scenario. The important thing about the Release Word is that it transforms the negative emotion into a positive one. Replace the negative scenario with the positive one emotionally.

Your Release Word may dispel fear, replacing it with peace or detachment. It can also change the meaning of the Trigger Word. Here is a set.

Trigger Word

Release Word


What they mean is that we need new solutions. Yeah! It’s about time! Let’s make them good ones this time.

In this re-writing, you are taking the scary charge of the unknown and focusing on the possibility of new solutions that will work better for you, and you are giving yourself an active role.


I receive the opportunities God sends me.

In this re-writing, you are surrendering to God and placing your faith as antidote to your fear. You are also re-defining the situation as an opportunity.


I stand tall as a tree, and find support in earth and heaven.

In this re-writing, you are physically and emotionally affirming your connection to the source of all abundance, Earth Mother. You are giving yourself feelings of trust and positive sensations that are the opposite of collapse.

Every time you hear the Trigger Word (or scenario) and begin to panic, start breathing slowly and deeply and counteract with your Release Word.

In the I-Ching, the meaning for “Emergency” is the same as for “Emergence.”

Tracking down the triggers that activate your Inner Enemies and shifting these negative voices by summoning your faith, trust, personal strength, values, creativity, humor and positive expectations will allow you to transform this crisis into an opportunity.

To close this article, I threw my I Ching Coins to answer the question below. I share the counsel.

How do I face financial crisis, and deal with change?

Hexagram 27
Providing nourishment

Beneath the immobile Mountain the arousing Thunder stirs:
The Superior Person preserves his freedom under oppressive conditions by watching what comes out of his mouth,

as well as what goes in.
Endure and good fortune will come.
Nurture others in need, as if you were feeding yourself.

Take care not to provide sustenance for those who feed off others.

(Could this refer to the bail-out?)

Light and Love,

Maria Mar

The Dream Alchemist

PD: For a deeper understanding and more tools to track down, neutralize and transform your Inner Enemies into allies, you can subscribe to my upcoming Hunt Down the Inner Enemies of your Success(tm) seminar series (Home Study Course included.) Just email me and I’ll put you in the waiting list.

Maria Mar is a writer, visual artist, life coach and book writing coach and an internationally known shaman, as well as a dance-theatre performer. Maria has been featured in PBS and BronxNet television and numerous radio stations such as WBAI, WKCR (Columbia University Station), WADO (Spanish Radio), Brooklyn College Radio Station and La Nueva Onda 1190. In the Free from Fear! Digital Kit, you will find a complete handbook with more practices and audio meditations to release fear and stress and to act from your place of power. If you are interested, just subscribe to, and you’ll receive a note when the kit comes out. Maria Mar also offers a live performance/lecture in which she teaches the Free from Fear! process through entertaining and engaging performance and audience participation. Contact Maria Mar if you are interested in having her perform or lecture at your place. Maria Mar also offers the Dream Kit, a guided journey through obstacles that supports the manifestation of your Dreams.

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Fear, Recession and the Law of Attraction

  • Article 1 below, lets you know how fear blocks your power to create change and to find solutions. It offers simple practices to release fear.

  • Article 2 reveals how fear triggers the voices of your Inner Enemies and how to neutralize these fear-based defenses to avoid being manipulated.

  • Article 3 inspires you to vibrate to healthy wealth. It also guides you to expand your vibration and consciousness to encompass our nation and the world in a vibration of healthy wealth and harmony, so that we can quickly transform this crisis into positive change.

  • Article 4 helps you reclaim your power and peace of mind through balanced actions.

  • Resources: This session include practices, alternative news and analysis, events and resources to enable you to make sound decisions, stay calm and peaceful and keep walking on your prosperity path.