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Give yourself the Seven Basic Permissions to Succeed

 

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Note: This post is an update from the previous post by the same name. I tried to include the first article here, but it was too long and the continuation links got broken. Sorry about that. I’ve taken care of this by updating the article to a shorter version and providing the ebook series for those who can benefit from more detail. Thanks for your patience, and enjoy the article below, which has some new insights.

 

ARTICLE 1:

Give yourself the Permission to DESERVE what you want

 

First permission to succeed: Permission to deserve what you want

First permission to succeed: Permission to deserve what you want

 

I’m talking on the phone with a great international artist. I congratulate her on the success of her current exhibition. Suddenly I hear a shocking confession.

“Yes, I know. It’s been well received. But you know what? I really do not FEEL like a success.”

As a soul healer and shaman, I am a psychic huntress. I track down patterns of energy not only in individuals, but in groups. For months now I’ve been on the scent of a mortal enemy of women’s success and wellbeing.

This enemy brings a scent of despair and diminishes a woman’s intrinsic value. It minimizes her contributions. It transforms a woman’s self- perception from success to insufficiency.

The Question

I’m chatting with a friend in a café. This is a woman who I admire, love and respect. She is a cultural leader, an exquisite poet and a college professor. She acknowledges that she is not working in the way she wants, not living her potential to its fullest. The obstacles seem insurmountable and she feels trapped.

I went home and hunted down the unasked question in the conversation.

“Why is it so hard for me to do what I want to do?”

The Answer

The long history of denial that women have experienced collectively is embedded in the individual energy patterns of each woman.  The problem is not that we consciously rate ourselves as a failure. Most of the women I interviewed knew the objective value of their achievements.

Women not give themselves emotional permission to succeed. The denial to succeed is subconscious, emotional and implicit. This denial works as a hidden interference to our conscious intent to create a fulfilling life.

The Underbelly of Success

The stories that we tell ourselves are rarely the real story. When we tell ourselves the reasons why we can’t do what we want to do, we focus on external circumstances, usually having to do with how giving to others take precedence over our own desires. But that is a lie we’ve been told and we keep telling ourselves.

If we look at the underbelly of success, however, it is rarely about circumstances and much more about permissions. It is about giving ourselves the emotional and spiritual permissions to be, have, create and enjoy what we desire.

Women need to restore the energy gateways for these permissions. They are not built-in, as is usually the case in most men, who have been socialized for centuries in the belief that they are made to achieve things in the world.

Many of us unwittingly fall into the role of victim, in spite of being powerful women, often leaders and high achievers. We do this by pitting our right to succeed against the wellbeing of our loved ones. Guilt is the glue that keeps us stuck, though we rarely recognize its scent in our self-sacrifice.

Why does an accomplished writer, artist, expert or leader who has taught, guided, helped and empowered hundreds of people feel unsuccessful? Because she is serving others in ways that do not fulfill her Soul’s needs. Success needs to be measured by the degree of fulfillment of your Soul, not by social criteria seen from outside the Self. I call this Success with Soul.

Many spiritual paths tell you that you are here to serve others, not for yourself. I disagree. We came here for our own evolution. That is not in opposition to love or service. We are one. You are a mirror to me and part of me. When you honor your essence, you give me permission to honor mine. The war between self and others is part of the selflessness myth that has limited women for centuries.

But there is something else.

For centuries we have sustained community, nourished families and transformed societies without as much as a thank you. We have gotten used to trying harder and giving more. We are seeking perfection as the gateway to give ourselves permission to succeed.

If we have achieved mastery of our creativity, but are not yet prosperous, we feel that we have failed.  If we have achieved prosperity, but do not have a love partner, we again feel that we are not that much of a success. We throw away the baby with the basinet, so to speak.

Why is it so hard to give yourself what you want?

1.       Because you believe that if you are happy, someone will suffer. For centuries, you’ve been sold in the definition of love as self-sacrifice.

2.       Because your relationship, empathic and nurturing gifts have been historically pitted against you. The training you’ve received on how to be a mother, friend, daughter or caregiver is to give by cutting off pieces of yourself. But you cannot subtract from what you don’t have.

3.       Because you believe that you are not good enough to have what you want. You believe that if you take care of others first, then and only then will you deserve the right to have what you want.

Here’s a solution you can try at home to create new gateways to give yourself permission to succeed.

Make a list of seven things that make you happy or that your body and soul need right now. These things need to be small enough that they are doable now, but challenging enough that you have not given yourself these things in a long time. For the next seven weeks, give yourself one of these things once a week.

Examples:

  • Take a day off and go to a SPA to get a massage.
  • Give yourself a warm food bath with salts before going to bed.
  • Spend a week-end in a retreat to rest and relax.
  • Take a creative workshop to learn or improve one of your talents.
  • Write a poem or create a song expressing your Unique Essence.
  • Dance under the moon.

Offer your happiness as a gift to the world.

—-The End—-

Copyright Maria Mar©2010.

 

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Maria Mar is an author, poet, healer and spiritual teacher whose life mission is to inspire you to achieve personal freedom, unlock your creative potential and live a life of magic and delight. A PBS-featured performer and visual artist, Maria has freed her vast creative potential and helps you do the same, designing a life and work experience that fulfills your soul’s purpose. Maria marries her artistry and imagination with her wisdom and energy tools as a shaman to offer powerful tools for self-transformation, healing and manifestation. If you are interested in mentoring with Maria Mar, visit http://www.dreamalchemist.com.

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Success is an inside job

Success is an inside job

Introduction to the Hidden Interference

that Sabotages your Success

By Maria Mar©2010

Art by Maria Mar(c)2010.

Are you a success? How do you measure this? We often measure success by external results. This is a mistake because if you have yet to see those results, you will feel a failure! Success is built from the inside out, so that it is always there, no matter what is happening around you, because YOU are the success!

How can you be a success if your dream or goal is yet to manifest? If you want a soulmate, but are single; if you want prosperity, but are broke; if you want visibility, but few people know you, how can you see yourself as a success?

The answer to that question is simple, but if I answer it right now, you won’t believe the reply. If you are feeling frustrated or lacking, this powerful, yet simple truth will sound hollow. You will simply let it slide because it will be difficult to grasp its power from your current state of mind. There is a journey you need to take in order to understand the nature of success. It is a quest. As all quests, it is fundamentally an Inward Journey.

In this post I am going to open the door to that Inward Journey. If you like what you see and feel as you read, you are welcome to walk through that open door. There is a link at the end of this article that leads you to that threshold.

The Power of Perception

Shamans have known for millennia that perception creates the world. Today, quantum scientists are finally catching up with this universal Law of Manifestation. But most people, trained at home and school, are still being taught the following:

  • Reality is an objective, unchanging phenomena.
  • You cannot change the situations you find yourself in because they are objective phenomena that have already been created and cannot be changed.
  • What happens externally (objective) has no relation to what happens internally (subjective).
  • You are born into a set of unchanging circumstances and you meet more circumstances in your life, all of them created by others, sometimes long ago, and you have no power to change these circumstances because you have no inherence in how they were created.
  • The only way to change your circumstance is through hard work over a long period of time, using will power and external actions in the world.
  • Your thoughts have nothing to do with what happens to you.
  • Your emotions are irrelevant. The best thing to do is repress them, as they can get you into trouble because they are irrational and often bad for you.
  • Desire, ambition, wanting and longing are bad for the spirit because they belong to the ego, to the material world.
  • BUT socially speaking, it is good to be ambitious and want a better life.
  • If you want change, you have to “make it happen” by taking actions that change your reality. (But wait! Wasn’t reality an objective, unchanging phenomena?)

When you look at these series of beliefs, you may immediately see that some are false, others outdated, some conflicting and all of them are disempowering. You may consciously disagree with them.

The question is what does your subconscious belief?

For many of us most of the time, our subconscious is carrying this false idea of reality in our programmed automatic reactions, fear-based emotions, negative expectations and learned false beliefs. These beliefs are instantly transmitted to our autonomic nervous system and comprised more than 95% of our responses to the world.

What does that mean to you?

It means that when you see an obstacle in your path to your dreams or goals, you will perceive it as an external, objective obstacle standing on your way; an obstacle that was placed by known or unknown forces outside of your own intention and therefore cannot be changed with your intent, thought, emotions or any other power within you. (Remember that in our old learned belief systems, there is no relation between the inner or subjective and the outer or objective reality.)

If you’ve learned to see the world as something external that “happens” to you, then it is likely that your autonomic reaction may be a flight or fight response from your sympathetic nervous system. You’ll push, huff and puff until you are exhausted. If the obstacle does not budge, you give up in defeat. Does that sound familiar?

Consider a third option. What would happen if you release this learned belief for a moment? I am referring to the learned, outdated belief that your external reality is an objective phenomena outside your inner realm of possibilities.

Consider, just as an experiment, that the obstacle in your path is BOTH:

  • An external, objective obstacle created by external forces

AND

  • A reflection of a hidden inner obstacle in your inner life that attracts or projects itself as an external barrier, with the conscious intent by Universal Divine Intelligence to bring it into your conscious view, to assist you in transforming it.

Does that change your attitude and feelings about the obstacles you are facing in your path to success? Good!

With that Window of Perception opened, let me share with you what I have found about the hidden interferences that sabotage our success.

How I discovered hidden interferences

Would you believe that the woman who created the branding, design and product covers in our websites and blogs, who has created many of the art work for our visual meditations and greetings, including the art work in this post, spent more than 20 years of her life telling herself that she was no good at visual art? I know this to be a fact. You see, I am that woman.

If in one year I began to draw, design, illustrate and create 3-D art, and within five years I became a professional visual artist, what stopped me from doing this before, in the more than 20 years I ran after artists to create my designs and stage sets because I was convinced I could not do them?

What I believed to be an “objective” limitation, a circumstance that defined my life, was nothing but an internal limitation, a learned belief that I carried in my subconscious mind. This is how hidden interference limits our talents, steal our dreams and lead us into a life and work design that betrays our true nature.

The root of all obstacles is within you, as is the power to create your world

I did not know then what I know now: your desires are the expression of your buried talents. When you long with all your Soul to do something, it is because it is IN you, no matter what others say. It is a power and talent pulsating inside you, something that you MUST do because your Soul needs to fulfill this path. This longing is your Soul’s purpose stirring inside you. Nothing can stop this force. Not “what they say.” Not lack of skills or resources. Not any obstacle on your way. Nothing. The only one stopping your power is YOU!

Inside you there is a great leader, a wise expert and gorgeous diva. She is waiting for you to remove the limited beliefs and secret mantras that run through your mind, hiding her from your own view. You can feel her pulsating in your heart. That’s why you feel a spiritual restlessness that pushes you to change.

You try to free this awesome force within you, but the hidden interference you subconsciously carry shuts down the pathways of your mind. When this happens…

  • You hold back.
  • You conform, betraying your Unique Essence or cutting-off some part of yourself to fit others’ formulas or expectations.
  • Doubt makes you stumble instead of leap.
  • Instead of moving forward, you dive back in, trying to “fix” it, to “improve” yourself, succumbing to your perfectionist and missing the opportunity.
  • You sacrifice your dream, stealing from yourself to give to others, whether it is time, attention, energy or your personal truth that you steal.
  • Your fear-based emotions escalate and you fall back into your Comfort Zone.
  • You hit a wall and go around in circles.

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Art, Poem and invitation to Celebrate Women’s History Month 2010

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Women’s History Month

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Art by Maria Mar(c)2010



Discover your Untapped Possibilities


Break the Fences in your Mind

No. 1 of the Break Free from What Holds you Back


Online Event Series


with Maria Mar


FOR WOMEN ONLY


Endless Possibilities

They rush by at the speed of light.
Invisible. Inaudible. A flash. Almost a memory.

And they are gone.


I could not see them before.

They were like crazy cars bumping against my choices.
Derailing my desires.

But I neither heard nor saw them,

though they were jamming the pathways of my mind.


There were other forces

in that secluded mindscape.

They sat there, like fences.

Doing nothing but blocking the view.

I did not see those either.


They showed up, however.

When I tried to see the beauty just beyond my reach.

The colors of a landscape

for which my Soul longed so much it hurt.


The crazy cars and the fences

kept my mind racing inside stagnation,

while I drove my will like a madwoman,

trying to get somewhere in a hurry.

My eyes were fixed on the horizon.

But the forces inside pulled me back.

Back to 0. Back to the same old place.


Until I turned my eyes inwards.

Until I Remembered.

I saw the speeding thoughts

racing through my mind,

flashes, remnants of childhood notions.

“So these are the crazy cars!”

So silly.
Full of long-ago thoughts

and buried fears.
Garbage.

I could have laughed, but didn’t.

How could this speeding garbage keep me in a frenzy?

“It has nothing to do with me,” I said.


Then I saw the fences.
They turned my mind into a labyrinth.

So much of what I wanted, what I was,

fenced out by habits.

Old routes I walked with raggedy shoes,

my big toe showing.

Tiny shoes no longer fitting my stature.

Narrow routes

where my habitual discomfort kept me walking.

Once you see them, they can no longer hide.
Once you touch them,

you can let them go.


Once the Inscape is reachable

the landscape can transform.


Walk with me into endless possibilities.


By Maria Mar(c)2010

I invite you to enter the mysterious regions of your mind to uncover the “Mind Fences” that may be blocking your sight to the great possibilities life offers you every day. I will be offering a multi-media event with art, audio-visual tools and dialogue. As an artist-shaman, I live my life in a laboratory of transformation to discover the powers, tools and insights that can help you manifest the life your soul desires. Join me in this online event where I will share what I have discovered about the “Fences in Your Mind” and how you can break them down to tap into endless possibilities.

Maria Mar

Maria Mar

The Dream Alchemist

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Event information

  • Why am I not manifesting that job?
  • Why can’t I get rid of this condition?
  • What else do I have to do?
  • How long will it take?
  • Nothing I do works!
  • Why am I procrastinating?
  • I keep affirming and shifting, but I keep bumping into
    the same problems.

If you’ve heard yourself saying this more than once, join us in an in-depth exploration to discover the “Fences in your Mind.”

You will find out:

  • What old thoughts, beliefs and emotions are “fenced in”–embedded in your subconscious, working underground to create the same old results or sabotage the results you want.

  • How do your new desires and goals are “fenced out”–blocked from your subconscious, so that you are creating stress in your attempts to manifest while wasting precious energy in an Inner War.

  • What simple things you can do to see and break the
    “Fences in your Mind.”

  • How life gives you all the help you need to break free,
    if you only know how and where to look.

Event information


What:
Online multi-media teleseminar and
dialogue


When: Wednesday, March 31, 2010


Where: Online at Maria Mar’s Cyber
Studio (Access information will be sent when you subscribe.)


Time: 9PM EST/ 6PM Pacific/8PM Central
(USA)


How: We will talk through teleconference
while sharing an audio-visual presentation. You can also chat.

A Question and Answer Section will be included.


If you are in USA or PR, you can call from your cell phone or land phone.


If you are out of the USA, you can try Skype-to-land-line calling, though sometimes it messes up. You can also chat through the visual component.


You need to be close to a computer with internet access to see the visual component.


Why? Conclude this year’s Women’s History Month by accessing the hidden Personal History that is keeping you trapped in an unwanted past. Break free from what holds you back!


Who?
Women. Bring up to 5 girlfriends!

Sorry, Guys. This particular event is for women only.

(Pass it on as a gift to your female friends.)


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Maria Mar is an author, speaker and ceremonialist poet. She is also a spiritual teacher and an internationally known shaman who inspires women to manifest the life of their dreams. She offers books, digital products and coaching, art that heals and transforms as well as performances, speaking engagements and other live and online events to help you become the protagonist of your life and the creator of your destiny. Find out more at Catch the Dream Express.

Book Review: Master your Workday now


Dream Alchemist’s Book Review

By Maria Mar



Author: Michael Linenberger


Book: Master
your Workday Now



If you are experiencing stress and worry or feel overwhelmed by all your work (and life) load, or if you are frustrated by goals that keep being postponed beyond an ever receding horizon due to daily urgency, this book is
your lifesaver. Or should I say timesaver?


The tools that Michael Linenberger teaches in
Master your Workday
Now
truly work! I cleared the clutter on my desk and released the clutter in my mind by the second day of reading, while still in Part 1 of the book.

Befriending Time

One of the constant patterns I see in my clients and peers these days is that
they have made time their enemy. Time is life. The day you don’t have time
is the day you die. Yet, people are constantly saying “I don’t have time to
do this”.


Guess what is dumped in the “no time for it” zone? Dreams. Desires. Vision. Goals. The stuff that gives life meaning, direction and flavor. The stuff that brings quality into our life. The stuff that feeds our Soul.


No wonder we fall asleep and live an uninspired life! In our modern culture, we have managed to blame time for our constant frustrations, procrastinations and inability to manifest our dreams. I work with my readers and clients to restore their quality of life, to awaken to their Soul’s purpose and delight. Therefore, I am curious about any tool that can help my clients, readers and me to restore our harmony with Father Time,
so that we can flow effectively through our day, living graciously and manifesting our goals and dreams. This book is such a tool and I highly recommend it.


Beyond
the Traditional To-do List

By the end of Part 1, I already experienced a clearance in my mind and an emotional relief and release. I realized that I was carrying an overload of to-dos that I had not committed to paper because all of my previous attempts at effective to-do lists had failed. Michael helped me realized WHY they had failed.

Michael throws out all the “shoulds” that keep us trying to do things in inorganic ways. Instead he works with what works. He works with how our psyche works, instead of how we are supposed to prioritize. He works with how the workplace really works, instead of having us trying to fit into some theoretical management structures. As a result, his Master your Workday Now system is easy, organic and effective. I have already created my “Now Task List” and I feel less mental clutter and stress. This system is so simple that at the beginning it seems silly. But it works like magic!

Email Addiction and Crutches

The Email section gave me some excellent tips that I can implement quickly and helped me examine how ~and most importantly, why~ I waste time in email handling every day. Recognizing how I use email as an emotional crutch was truly liberating.


Debunking the not-so SMART goals

In my business training I had learned a definition of goals that did not sit well with me. They were the popular SMART goals (S = Specific, M =Measurable, A = Attainable, R = Realistic, T = Timely). This goal definition was upheld as the only and undeniable nature of goals. Though specificity and measurability are helpful, I found that this rigid definition of goals created a gap between my vision and mission and the execution of my goals. As a result, I had basically given up on writing down goals. I have a clear vision and mission, and SMART goals were somehow not working to manifest
them as a daily action plan. Thanks to Michael I now validated my intuitive knowledge that what was drilled into me as goals where not really goals, but what Michael calls Target Goals, which is only one aspect of goals.

Reclaiming creative leadership

Goals were vindicated to their higher order as a “self envisioned aspiration to excel.” The Master your Workday Now system returns creativity and vision to the work place and with that, allows you to reclaim purpose and leadership in your life and your career.

When creativity and vision are restored to our goal-setting, it re-connects to our Soul and our inner life. Dead, gutless, on-paper only goals come back to life as passionate affirmations of our desires and purpose. Our workday gains a sense of purpose and magic, and we come to life as a full-fledge creator, a transformer of life. Michael helps restores this magic in simple, clear, common sense knowledge. I love it!

Restoring the Sacred Feminine to goal setting

As always, what was missing or had been devalued in traditional goal setting was the Shakti element, the creative, soulful element. With this missing, we had been left only with the measurement tools, the how-to, which is the Shiva element, the action-oriented element in goal setting.

This devaluing of the Sacred Feminine shows up in every aspect of life that is deficient. Here it shows as the creation of goals degutted of their essential, passionate purpose, the Vision Goals. Michael brings back this vision element and then calls the action-oriented measurable goals Target Goals, marrying the Shakti and Shiva elements in goal setting. With this refinement, Michael restores wholesomeness to the workflow.

I believe that his vision can be applied at a larger scale to our lives, to the obsessive action that is killing us with stress, to the loss of vision, passion and purpose we as a society suffer, to the obsession with quantity over quality, to the divorce between our Shakti and our Shiva Powers.

Demystifying money

Another element I like in Michael’s approach is that it addresses a terrible misdirection that is generating stress and confusing many a life mission: the obsessive pursue of money as an end result, as a goal. Michael prompts us to consider money a way to enhance your description of a vision, and not as the vision itself.

I think you will find a feeling of peace once you realize the things you think you want money for may be achievable in simpler ways, and that you can pursue those simpler ways with less effort. If you are using money unnecessarily as a How for your goal, you may be making the goal harder.

Michael Linenberger


Master your
Workday Now

Organic task management

One of the key elements that make the
Master your Workday Now
system so organic is that it is based on our mental plans, the way our mind actually works, the way we see and experience time, priorities and urgency. The other element that rocks in this system is the recognition
that most workplaces prioritize by urgency, not importance.

Tension is created when we try to prioritize items by their importance and bump against a workflow that keeps putting urgency ahead, so that our “important” priorities keep being pushed back in time, until we give up on them and simply live managing emergencies. By recognizing urgency and teaching us how
to manage it effectively every day, Michael frees our time and attention, so that we can then address our vision and the goals that inspire us to grow and transform our lives and our world.

Transforming Organizational Goal Setting

There is an aspect of the Master your Workday Now system that has the potential to vastly improve the way we are funding and measuring goals in our organizations and in the
workplace. Michael emphasizes the need to hold the vision at a higher esteem than any human-made numeric measure, for sometimes you can achieve the vision while not achieving the target numbers.

This is true of corporations as well as organizations. But as a corporate
CEO who was a non-profit director in another life, I feel that this system
can prevent a pitfall that I consider tragic in traditional non-profit
funding and its requirements. Sometimes, funders’ obsession with measurable quantities, while intended to ensure effectiveness, may inadvertently thwart the true vision and even the mission of the organizations they are intending to support.

Our rigid focus on quantifiable goals, a remnant of the limited application of the SMART goals, can be expanded with
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Activating the Law of Attraction in your work day

Though Michael prefers to play this down in favor of focusing on attention~ he has created a system that perfectly aligns with the principles of the Law of Attraction. No wonder it works like magic!


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Walk out of your Family Karma and Step into your Dream

Walk out of your Family Karma

and Step into your Dream

Maria Mar

Love is the air under our wings.

It uplifts us. It frees us. It supports us.

It makes it safe to explore and fly.

It nests us when we return.


Part 1


What is your Inheritance?


When love is unconditional, it is the greatest ally to our dreams. It gives us the power to move mountains.

Unfortunately, for many of us born to fly, love seems to be the chain around our talon and the weight crushing our wings. Many of us hold back from our true potential for fear of being rejected by those we love. Even more of us are held back from our dreams by the false beliefs and negative patterns secretly inherited
from those we love.


Love vs. Fear

Love moves the world, but only when it is unconditional. Unfortunately, few of us practice unconditional love. There is secret war going on in many families right now. It is a war between freedom and love. To fly, love needs freedom. Fear, however creates a sickness that attaches to love, making it possessive and limiting. In the name of love and home, we try to control the destiny of our children, to twist and bend their natures and desires so that they fit our inherited worldview. In the name of love, we demand that our beloved sacrifice her or his dream ―even his or her very nature― to fit our learned scripts of what love or family should be. We see this as protecting them. Yet, we stifle them and ourselves, crippling not only the individuals, but the entire family.

Fear is the opposite of love. When fear creeps into the family, it creates stagnation and contraction, instead of growth and evolution. Fear alone is not the enemy, however. The enemy of love, as well as freedom is learned fear. This crippling disease keeps families imprisoned and clips the wings of their members.

But we all have choices, don’t we? We don’t stay under our elders’ grip forever. You grow up, leave your home of origin and create the life you want. Or so you think. But unbeknownst to you, the old family beliefs pass on from your great-grandmother to your grandmother to your mother and to you. These patterns are still intact, alive and kicking in your subconscious.


Your Double Inheritance

When these beliefs are healthy, relevant to the present and effectively moving you towards your dreams, they are the Ancestors’ Gifts. They are the air under your wing.

But when they are obsolete, based on fear and on a negative worldview and embedded in a life-or-death pattern drenched in fear, these old beliefs are your Shadow Inheritance. This
inheritance holds you back. It is an invisible shackle solidly built in your subconscious. The links of that chain are made of expectations, assumptions, learned defensive patterns and a cast-iron worldview. It has nothing to do with what you consciously believe. It may hold you back against your own
conscious, chosen values, beliefs and dreams. The subconscious runs about 95% percent of your life, so that is a BIG chain. That heavy chain keeps you a prisoner of the past.

As long as you are carrying the weight of your Shadow Inheritance, you are going to find it difficult to soar into your dreams, because the old beliefs are weighting you down.

In my new ebook set,
Tap into the Secret Power in the Family Blues: Heal Issues of Love, Wealth
and Health
, I help you take a good look at the way in which your Shadow Inheritance holds you back. I share with you a personal experience in the storybook
A Bitter-sweet Holiday Family Story.
Then in the
workbook
, I offer you powerful tools to flush out from your subconscious those old beliefs, so that you can fly free. To find out how your Family Karma can hold you down and how to break free, continue reading.


Part 2

Family Karma and Personal Freedom

Your Shadow Inheritance keeps you trapped in the past. I call this trap the  Family Karmic Prison. Its walls are made of perceptions and energy patterns. It is created and constantly recreated by inherited beliefs, old emotional patterns and a worldview that limits our expectations and our ability to see new possibilities. These learned perceptions color and shape the world you see right now. Yet, you believe that this is the only real world because it is a familiar world, one that has been created for generations in your family. When you commit yourself to dissolving the inner obstacles within you and move towards your
dream, you begin to dissolve the Family Karmic Prison. This is a
great act of love towards yourself. When you do that, you wake up from the Domestication Trance that keeps your family members trapped in that prison. You begin to see with new eyes. You see new possibilities. You can interpret circumstances in a different way.

This does not necessarily make you happier, for now you see with clarity how your loved ones are trapped. You try to help them. You try to let them know that their expectations are not necessarily reality, but assumptions. And your conflicts escalate. They resist. They blame you. They hold on tighter to their prison. The pain grows in you.


The Loyalty War

What will you do? Will you stop changing and moving towards your dream? Will you betray yourself to be loyal to your family’s worldview? Or will you move on, split into two by the pain of leaving them behind? Is it worth it, to reach your dream alone, without them? This creates a type of Inner War that I
call the Loyalty War.

Know this:
You are a Family Scout. You were given a dream, a life purpose

and a vision because you came into this world to move yourself, the world and your family into a new reality. You are a Messenger of Freedom. It does not serve you or anyone to stay behind, shrinking your potential, clipping your wings, denying your Personal Truth, just to be accepted. Self-betrayal is not an act of love. It is not love for yourself and it is certainly not love for your family.


Personal Freedom

As long as you are inside that Family Karmic Prison, you cannot open the door for anyone else. You need to break free from your attachment to your family’s struggle. That is a core part of your Soul’s Purpose. It is a precondition to manifest your Life’s Purpose. Once outside that perceptual prison, you can invite your loved ones to step out of those limits and into new possibilities. Your own act of liberation, your own health, joy, success or fulfillment will be the best invitation. Even then, however, you must honor personal choice. You may invite them to walk out,
but you cannot walk out FOR them and you cannot MAKE them walk out.

You can give them your love, but you cannot give them freedom, for freedom is a personal choice.

Resources

I wrote the ebook set Tap into the Secret Power in the Family Blues: Heal Issues of Love, Wealth
and Health
, to help you with this issue.


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Inspirational Journey-Jumping on Water


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Most people still believe that reality is objective. Then they believe that their
interpretation IS reality. Next they believe that their emotional response is caused by this reality. This is a way of giving your power away. Why not instead assume your power as the creator of reality? Why be the spectator when you can be the author, director and protagonist? Get the credits for your life. After all, you have created it!

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“The way we relate to others and to the world at large has less to do with
outer circumstances and more to do with the stories in our mind. Our
feelings arise in response to our inner interpretation of the world around
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experience.

At the end of the day, at the end of your life, your power and freedom lie
in making reality mean what you want it to. Your attitude toward life
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