The Real Tragedy of Drama Queens

The real tragedy of Drama Queens

By Maria Mar(c)

When you are trapped in your habitual Soap Opera Dramas, you are self-involved to the point that you miss sight of three vital things: your surroundings, other people and your goals. Here is the real tragedy of the Drama Queen.

1. She wastes precious emotional fuel going around in circles.

2. She wastes time and resources going around in circles.

3. She alienates allies, healthy peers and healthy partners with her self-involved, ineffective and habitual dysfunctional scripts.

4. She leaks prosperity, loses clients and wastes money.

5. She adopts the pose of an ineffective, disorganized and unprofessional woman.

6. She fails to see how she is creating stress in those around her.

7. She misrepresents her business or capacity and creates situations where she will not be promoted or hired.

8. She dumps her toxic drama on her loved ones and creates terrible stress on her family, especially her partner and children.

9. She repels her children and partner, who need to move away from her in order to grow and function healthily.

10. She uses her drama to manipulate others, as an ineffective attempt to control the situation and to beg for attention.

11. She uses her power to sabotage her dream as she runs hysterically on the same spot, until she digs her own grave.

12. Because she creates high levels of stress that lead to hypertension, heart attack, muscle spasms, anxiety attacks, stomach trouble, ulcers, brain tumors, cancer, strokes and more. Make your choice.

Would you rather be a Drama Queen or act as the genuine, powerful Queen of your own life and Dream?

SOLUTION:

If you choose to be the real queen, here is one quick, easy way to stop your Drama before it catches momentum.

The minute you see yourself spinning into your Drama, say out loud to yourself: “STOP!”

Then breathe deeply and slowly. As you exhale, say firmly and clearly, without drama: “There is no drama. I am clear and there is no problem.”

As soon as you regain your center, become aware of how you have lost your compass.

  1. See how you are affecting those around you,
  2. See how you have deviated from your goal, and
  3. See how you are creating chaos or anxiety in your situation.

Now proceed to calmly re-focus on your goal or the solution of the problem, sustaining a centered, calming mood and consciously spreading it around.

EXAMPLE:
Let’s say that your usual drama is losing the car keys before going out.You enter a frenzy and send everyone spinning for the keys, just to find them 20 minutes later where you have left them misplaced the night before.

The minute you see yourself spinning that drama, say “STOP” to yourself, energetically and firmly (without involving others in the drama).

Then breathe deeply and slowly. As you exhale, say to yourself: “There is no drama. I am clear and there is no problem.”

Observe how you have lost your compass: Perhaps your family is already tense at the prospect of yet another crazy moment before going out and the anticipation of being late to their appointments. Perhaps by getting into this anxiety rollercoaster, you are neglecting to check that you have what you need for today’s presentation, so that you will sabotage yourself getting there late and unprepared. Perhaps you are creating chaos and stress in your daily life by all these little dramas. RELEASE that choice and embrace Inner Peace.

Now proceed to calmly retrace your steps the last time you place your keys when you got home.

I hope this helps you!

Stop by and leave your comments as things begin to change and you occupy the throne of your true queendom!

Maria Mar(c) You can use this quote as long as you include my name and copyright mark and the paragraph below:

Maria Mar is the Dream Alchemist, an inspirational poet, speaker, coach, author and spiritual teacher who helps women create the life of their dreams. Visit her at: Catch the Dream Express at http://www.catchthedreamexpress.com!

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Mother’s Day Gift- Self-mothering Practice

Warrior Tree, Mother Tree

Power Posture

Maria Mar(c)2009

This is a Power Posture to help women practice Self-Mothering.


While women take care of children, elders, the sick, the community and their families, many of them find it difficult to take care of themselves.

True, with all their duties, most women find it difficult to find time for self-mothering. But that is just the surface problem. Beneath, lies a deeper emotional reason. We have been trained to place our selves last and to feel guilty for giving ourselves priority.

Art by Maria Mar(c)2009. No appropriation, reproduction or distribution allowed. Protected by international copyright law.

Art by Maria Mar(c)2009

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the downloadable poster.

This exercise calls upon the sacred presence of  Trees to summon your Inner Warrior. This Power Self opens a sacred time and space, connecting you to the forces of the trees, the earth and the Universe for renewal and strength. It helps you to center yourself. Once you find your core strength and center, then you can call upon your Inner Mother to  embrace yourself and practice self-love.

Preparation

  1. In preparation for the practice, copy and paste these instructions.

  2. Download the audio on the right column.

  3. You can also download the beautiful Warrior Tree, Mother Tree original art by Maria Mar for visualization.

AUDIO MEDITATION

Click here.

Click the link above to download
the audio meditation

and the poster.

Begin your Power Posture by standing with legs comfortably apart.

You can listen to the audio meditation as you adjust your posture.

Through ought your posture adjustment, see and feel yourself as a tall, sturdy tree.

You may want to download Maria Mar’s original Warrior Tree, Mother Tree art and print it as a visual aid.

Visualize your Hara line and feel your chakras spinning along this energy line.

  1. Adjust your stand until your weight is equally distributed between the two feet.

  2. Flex knees slightly, so that they are not locked. This helps in releasing and aligning the pelvis.

  3. Practice deep inhalation, allowing the air to travel all the way down to your belly. Release the air in a slow exhalation. The slower the exhalation, the deeper the relaxation.

  4. Roll your shoulders up and back in inhalation. Then drop them in exhalation. Do this several times, until they are relaxed.

  5. Release your lower spine by dropping your tail. Swing the pelvis back and forth slowly, until you find the center, where it is neither pushed forward not tugged in.

  6. Readjust your knees and feet again to make sure that your weight is well distributed.

  7. Return to Deep breathing for a while. Look at the tree art or visualize yourself as a tree.

  8. Release the upper spine by lifting the crown of your head upwards while slowly aligning your chin to be parallel to the floor. Feel the seven vertebrae in the back of your neck as they release any crunching and occupy more space.

  9. Stand relaxed, spine released, knees flexed and weight evenly distributed in both feet, and visualize an energy line (the Hara Line) that transverses your body. It shoots up from deep within the Earth core, runs through your spine and rises up towards the heavens. (The second illustration shows the Hara line.)

  10. Close your eyes and feel that energy shooting through you. Gently touch the points indicated here with your hands, one with the left, the next with the right hand, bringing the hands up and connecting each point with the previous one:

    1. Right hand-touch your crotch

    2. Left hand-touch your navel. Connect with the previous point.

    3. Right hand-touch the middle of your stomach. Connect with previous point.

    4. Left hand-touch the space between your breasts. Connect with the navel and then adjust the point in your middle stomach, until the line between the navel and the heart feels straight.

    5. Right hand-the tip of your nose.

    6. Left hand-between the eyes. Connect these points.

    7. Right hand-on the crown of your head. Connect this point with the previous one and then feel the entire line, from the earth through your crotch running up all the way to your crown.

  11. Now you are a tree. As you feel centered and in balance, begin to repeat the words in the Audio Meditation out loud, slowly. To speak like a tree, each work and sound is born in the stillness and silence and then released to the world as a delicious fruit. Remember to breath deeply as you talk.

I am Warrior Tree

Rooted in the deep Earth, I am

Centered and strong, I am.

Drawing life force

from the fire below.

Drawing life force

from the sky above.

I am Warrior Tree,

Connected to the Universe, I am.

  1. Once you feel relaxed, calmed, centered, rooted and aligned, begin to raise your arms above you slowly and lovingly. You are shapeshifting from Warrior Tree to Mother Tree. Speak out the second part of the poem. Again, speak like a tree. As you speak, your branches go up until they are open to the sides, and then you slowly embrace yourself.

Now I open my branches.

Now I release my love

in a generous green embrace.

I love, accept and nurture myself.

I am Mother Tree, I am.

I am Mother.

I am.

  1. Feel your basic goodness. Feel the beauty of your Essence. Feel as perfect as a tree. Allow the green embrace of love to shower all over you. Smile from within.

  2. You may close the meditation there, proceed to journal writing or ask your Inner Child what it needs or want and then do it there or set a time aside to do it during the week.

Practice this Power Posture three times a week until you know it by heart. Then use it whenever you realize that you are neglecting yourself.

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Good luck,

Maria Mar

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Female Secrets in the Law of Attraction-Breastfeed your Dream

Female Secrets in the Law of Attraction

No. 3: Breastfeed your Dream

By Maria Mar©

Author of the Dream Kit

Do you have a desire that you’ve been trying to manifest using the Law of Attraction? You may be missing the most important information for you as a woman. You have the power to quicken the manifestation of your dream using little known Female Secrets in the Law of Attraction. In this article you will learn how to breastfeed your dream! I’m sure you can relate to that, while your testosterone-driven brothers will go “huh?”
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Birthing your dream is wonderful. If you’ve done that already, your dream is now a real entity, not just an imagined idea. It occupies time and space in your life. But it’s still a dream. It is not yet a full-fledge reality that can sustain your life. When that happens, you will be living the dream. It will no longer be a dream, but a reality. What can you do to grow that baby dream so that it is fulfilled?

Breastfeed the baby, of course. There is a reason why women are “emotional.” (And it’s not our propensity for drama) Emotions are the life-giving liquid that nourishes a dream. Just like a baby needs milk to grow, your dream needs you to feed it with positive emotions. Emotions are the fuel of the Law of Attraction.

The Law of Attraction is not called a law for nothing! Just like the Law of Gravity, it operates within specific parameters. Throw something and it falls. That’s the Law of Gravity. It works through the magnetic pull of earth. The Law of Attraction also works with magnetism. How do you magnetize?
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Through emotions. Emotions are energies-in-motion that move within your Energy Body. They are the ocean waves within your being, generated and regenerated at the Sexual or Spleen Chakra. Water has been traditionally associated with the emotional realm because our emotions are fluid waves of energy that give color, intensity, texture and force to our thoughts, actions and intentions. Like ocean waves, they pull the tides of universal consciousness towards your desires.

When you pour your passion into your desire, you magnetize it. If you hold back, doubt, give credence to those who detract it or concentrate on the obstacles, you de-magnetize it. It’s as simple as that.

What do you want? Let’s say that you want to finish your book and sell millions of copies to share your wisdom and generate affluence in return.
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Let’s magnetize that desire. You can apply this process to your own desire as you read.

Name five reasons about your dream that charge you emotionally. You will recognize them because you immediately feel enthusiastic, joyful and motivated when you think of them. Here are mine. Do yours along.

1. I feel compelled to share this.
The spiritual knowledge that I’ve been giving about the power of Female Wisdom to create our reality and to change this world is a magnificent gift. It changed me from a tormented artist to a woman who sees beauty and magic in everything. I’m so grateful! It changes the life of everyone who opens her heart to receive it. I feel compelled to share this with as many people as can receive it while I am on this earth.

(Notice the tone and mood. My words are charged with my emotions. Notice the strong verbs. They are signals that I am passionate about this. That’s what we are looking for. It’s not a matter of manipulating language, of choosing the right words. That’s a common mistake. It is about recognizing and daring to share what really ignites your passion.)

2. I love talking, writing and sharing this!
My life is bliss when I am able to communicate this in a way that touches others’ hearts. I love talking about it. I love seeing that magical moment when a woman’s Ancient Heart awakens and recognizes her hidden knowledge. It’s like seeing a door that had remained invisible. Now the person can see it. Now she can walk through it. And I am the bearer of that Alchemical Key!

3. I made a commitment to myself when I was a young woman, to be loyal to my art and my gifts.
Ever since I did that pledge, I have made money from what I love to do, without working on jobs I don’t care about or working for just to make a buck. The more people read my books, the more affluence I can generate from my self-loyalty. That’s the example I want to leave for future generations and that’s my best way to inspire other women. I walk my talk!

4. I want to buy my beautiful home.
I want to purchase my brownstone in New York, so that I can have a performance loft, my studio office and my art studio, all in a four-story building with my living loft and store. I want my beautiful roof-top garden, too. I want to generate abundant affluence to purchase and remodel that building.

5. Meeting new people who are manifesting their dreams is exciting and helps me raise my energy vibration.
I love meeting people who are positive and who take action to manifest their dreams. It charges me with vibrant, positive energy. They understand me, and together we raise amazing power for everyone’s dream. I feel that we are changing not only ourselves, but the entire planetary vibrational field.

There you go. Feel the power of your own five reasons. They are your Emotional Dream Nourishments. They are the emotional milk that nourishes my dream. If you named yours already, you can feel your energy vibration rising and you are charged with faith, motivation and the fire of passion.

Place these five Emotional Dream Nourishments in a vision board, Dream Basket or poster. Look at them every morning to breastfeed your dream. Your dream will grow big and strong and it will soon be your reality.

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Female Secrets in the Law of Attraction-Gestate your Dream


Female Secrets

in the
Law of Attraction

No. 1: Gestate your
Dream

By Maria Mar©




The Law of Attraction remains a mystery to many, just as women remain a mystery to men. The truth is that women and the Law of Attraction have a lot in common. Knowing the Female Secrets in the Law of Attraction gives you as
a woman a Female Advantage in manifesting your dream.


If you don’t know your Female Advantage in the laws of manifestation, however, you may be struggling unnecessarily to create your Dreamlife. Don’t splatter about like an ugly duckling when you can glide like a majestic
swan!

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You as a woman have powerful advantages that can quicken the flow of the Law of Attraction in your life.

Just as electricity, the Law of Attraction has two polar forces that need to work in balance. The same happens to your Energy Body. You have yin (receptive) and yang (aggressive) energy forces. These are the Shakti (Female) and Shiva (Male) Powers in you. As a woman, you have an organic ease in using your Shakti Power. This can actually quicken the magic of
manifestation.


Most people that try to apply the Law of Attraction fall into two categories:

·
They do nothing, waiting passively for
their dreams to manifest. These people confuse the receptive or Shakti Power
with passivity.


· They work and struggle incessantly,
trying to make it happen. These people confuse action with aggression and
power with control.


The Universe works through a balance of Shakti and Shiva forces. This means that your manifestation alchemy must marry these two elements. There must be receptive action and intentional release. Because most of us are trained to acknowledge only our Shiva Power, we fail to create the alchemy that manifests our dreams. We are either too pushy or too passive.


If you are too pushy, you plunge aggressively forward, often running against the grain of the flow of events, trying to make it happen and obstructing the flow of the universe.

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At the other extreme, there are those who believe that, since the Law of
Attraction is a universal law, all they have to do is desire, and their
dreams will manifest without them lifting a finger or searching within to
find the hidden obstacles.


You as woman have an easier access to the secret balance that quickens
manifestation. How? Simply think about bringing a baby into the world.


Do you wait passively until it drops out of you? No. You take care of it. You eat right. You go to the doctor. You sing and dance to it. You prepare its clothing and room. You avoid any substances or emotions that may harm
the precious life inside you.


Do you struggle, trying to control how the baby will come to term? No. You welcome the baby. You make a space in your heart and your life for that beautiful creature that is gestating inside you. You visualize yourself caring and loving it. You give it love every day with every thought and
word.


There you are! You already have one Female Secret to the Law of Attraction. Gestate your dream as you would a baby.

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Receive it. Love it. Nourish it. Protect it. Sing to it. Make a space for it. All of these are Shakti actions. If you are confused between action and aggression, you may believe that you are not DOING anything when you engage in these receptive actions.


You are using your WombPower to gestate a new life. This power works in harmony and collaboration with the universe. You are not alone. The universe is working with you. The baby itself is doing its part because it wants to be born.


Even if that new life is not visible yet, even if you can’t hear, touch, or see it running around, you know without a shadow of a doubt that it’s already a reality inside you. You lovingly and joyfully nurture that reality into being.


This is your WombPower, one of the Female Secrets in the Law of Attraction.


Don’t miss my next article in this series: Birthing your Dream.

By the way, I posted this second article before this one by mistake. Oh,boy! I birthed the dream before gestating it!): Anyway, you can get it here:


https://dreamexpress.wordpress.com/2009/04/19/women-and-the-law-of-attraction-birthing-your-dream/


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Law of Attraction-The Sound of your Words

“But I’m tired of prayers and affirmations!” You protest. “I’m not  manifesting what I want!”

How are you asking?

Words are powerful, and most of us focus on the words being said. But the voice is the vibration that carries the words into the Universe.

When someone says “I love that!” they could be meaning the exact opposite of what their words say. They could be talking ironically. Or they could be expressing sincere love. If you are not looking at their facial expressions, how do you know what they mean? By the inflection of their voice.

Your voice carries your personal truth at a vibrational level. It expresses your innermost emotions. It captures your doubts and ambivalence. It reflects your defensive patterns. It reveals your expectations.

What does the Universe hear when it listens to your prayers and petitions?

When I work with my coaching clients or in ceremonial sessions, I make sure that the voice of the person who is sending out a wish is clear, passionate, sincere and that it holds nothing back. In that voice, the Universe hears 100% commitment. It is then a reality. The Universe responds immediately.

Maria Mar(c)

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I am living my Dream. Come sing with me!

Dear beautiful sisters and brothers,

I remember Angie, the beautiful, magical child I was once. She would create poems and dances and organize participatory, creative events for the family reunions. I invite you to join my “I am my Dream Celebration” today by leaving your comments and sharing your stories. Here’s mine.

Through my inherited wounds and blows in life, Angie lost some of her creativity and luster, and she became a caretaker, someone who carried a lot of psychic weight as an atonement for being so happy and creative. She lost her singing voice. She lost her visual art skills. She came to believe that she only had a right to do art if she was NOT enjoying it and if she focused on the problems. After all, that is what she saw everyone around her small world focusing on!

Though I never betrayed my creativity or my life’s purpose, I paid a heavy price for this. I became a workaholic “activist” and carried a lot of social weight, struggle, anger and caretaking into my theater experience, until in 1993 I burned out (literally embodied in the fire that consumed our venue!!) My Ancestors told me then: Healer, heal thyself. My shamanic initiation began.

My shamanic path and my healing journey have been about releasing the psychic weight and reclaiming all of my talents and gifts. I reclaimed my visual art and began doing beautiful participatory art installations, illustrations, book covers, website designs and graphics, sets and costumes. Wow! For a woman who said for years: “The only thing I can do with my hands is write, because I have no talent for visual arts” this was a big growth.

I healed my learned dysfunctions and beliefs, so that I began to create a theater that focused on beauty, on the solutions, on the experience of love and power, instead of drilling the audiences about the social problems. As I let go of focusing on the negative, while sustaining faith in our ability to heal, I also began attracting wonderful people to work with me creatively.

And now, the last of the blockages has been removed. For years I could not sing due to what I call a “Family Curse” –wounds that are passed on for generations. Think about this: for more than 40 years I could not sing. I could not fly in melody. I could not repeat the same note patterns. I could not carry a tune. This was not due to being tune-deaf, because I wen to a specialist. It was emotional trauma and deep-seated beliefs. Nonetheless, I simply could not do it.

In the last years I have been releasing the obstacles to this last remnant of my inherited limitations. Finally, I am happy to say that in my last presentation, in the Poetry Botanica, I sang in public for the first time in my life!!!

I heard the music for Tanya Torres’ beautiful poem “El Rio” (The River) inside me, and I allowed myself to sing it. Imagine what it has meant for me that many people in the audience came to me to thank me for the healing power of my voice!

Please join me today to celebrate that I have become whole, that I have released all my powers and talents, and that I am now living my dream, doing the art that I was meant to do. This was the vision Angie had long ago, the memory of her purpose. Now I am doing it: creating a community circle where people find magic, inspiration and healing through art and love. This is the Poetry Botanica.

Celebrate with me here today by leaving your comments about my story and sharing what you have accomplished, the talents and skills you have reclaimed and the dreams you are now living.

Let”s inspire each other this holidays through the gift of storytelling and the miracle we all are.

Light and Love,
Maria Mar
The Dream Alchemist
Poetry Botanica

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