Book Review: Master your Workday now


Dream Alchemist’s Book Review

By Maria Mar



Author: Michael Linenberger


Book: Master
your Workday Now



If you are experiencing stress and worry or feel overwhelmed by all your work (and life) load, or if you are frustrated by goals that keep being postponed beyond an ever receding horizon due to daily urgency, this book is
your lifesaver. Or should I say timesaver?


The tools that Michael Linenberger teaches in
Master your Workday
Now
truly work! I cleared the clutter on my desk and released the clutter in my mind by the second day of reading, while still in Part 1 of the book.

Befriending Time

One of the constant patterns I see in my clients and peers these days is that
they have made time their enemy. Time is life. The day you don’t have time
is the day you die. Yet, people are constantly saying “I don’t have time to
do this”.


Guess what is dumped in the “no time for it” zone? Dreams. Desires. Vision. Goals. The stuff that gives life meaning, direction and flavor. The stuff that brings quality into our life. The stuff that feeds our Soul.


No wonder we fall asleep and live an uninspired life! In our modern culture, we have managed to blame time for our constant frustrations, procrastinations and inability to manifest our dreams. I work with my readers and clients to restore their quality of life, to awaken to their Soul’s purpose and delight. Therefore, I am curious about any tool that can help my clients, readers and me to restore our harmony with Father Time,
so that we can flow effectively through our day, living graciously and manifesting our goals and dreams. This book is such a tool and I highly recommend it.


Beyond
the Traditional To-do List

By the end of Part 1, I already experienced a clearance in my mind and an emotional relief and release. I realized that I was carrying an overload of to-dos that I had not committed to paper because all of my previous attempts at effective to-do lists had failed. Michael helped me realized WHY they had failed.

Michael throws out all the “shoulds” that keep us trying to do things in inorganic ways. Instead he works with what works. He works with how our psyche works, instead of how we are supposed to prioritize. He works with how the workplace really works, instead of having us trying to fit into some theoretical management structures. As a result, his Master your Workday Now system is easy, organic and effective. I have already created my “Now Task List” and I feel less mental clutter and stress. This system is so simple that at the beginning it seems silly. But it works like magic!

Email Addiction and Crutches

The Email section gave me some excellent tips that I can implement quickly and helped me examine how ~and most importantly, why~ I waste time in email handling every day. Recognizing how I use email as an emotional crutch was truly liberating.


Debunking the not-so SMART goals

In my business training I had learned a definition of goals that did not sit well with me. They were the popular SMART goals (S = Specific, M =Measurable, A = Attainable, R = Realistic, T = Timely). This goal definition was upheld as the only and undeniable nature of goals. Though specificity and measurability are helpful, I found that this rigid definition of goals created a gap between my vision and mission and the execution of my goals. As a result, I had basically given up on writing down goals. I have a clear vision and mission, and SMART goals were somehow not working to manifest
them as a daily action plan. Thanks to Michael I now validated my intuitive knowledge that what was drilled into me as goals where not really goals, but what Michael calls Target Goals, which is only one aspect of goals.

Reclaiming creative leadership

Goals were vindicated to their higher order as a “self envisioned aspiration to excel.” The Master your Workday Now system returns creativity and vision to the work place and with that, allows you to reclaim purpose and leadership in your life and your career.

When creativity and vision are restored to our goal-setting, it re-connects to our Soul and our inner life. Dead, gutless, on-paper only goals come back to life as passionate affirmations of our desires and purpose. Our workday gains a sense of purpose and magic, and we come to life as a full-fledge creator, a transformer of life. Michael helps restores this magic in simple, clear, common sense knowledge. I love it!

Restoring the Sacred Feminine to goal setting

As always, what was missing or had been devalued in traditional goal setting was the Shakti element, the creative, soulful element. With this missing, we had been left only with the measurement tools, the how-to, which is the Shiva element, the action-oriented element in goal setting.

This devaluing of the Sacred Feminine shows up in every aspect of life that is deficient. Here it shows as the creation of goals degutted of their essential, passionate purpose, the Vision Goals. Michael brings back this vision element and then calls the action-oriented measurable goals Target Goals, marrying the Shakti and Shiva elements in goal setting. With this refinement, Michael restores wholesomeness to the workflow.

I believe that his vision can be applied at a larger scale to our lives, to the obsessive action that is killing us with stress, to the loss of vision, passion and purpose we as a society suffer, to the obsession with quantity over quality, to the divorce between our Shakti and our Shiva Powers.

Demystifying money

Another element I like in Michael’s approach is that it addresses a terrible misdirection that is generating stress and confusing many a life mission: the obsessive pursue of money as an end result, as a goal. Michael prompts us to consider money a way to enhance your description of a vision, and not as the vision itself.

I think you will find a feeling of peace once you realize the things you think you want money for may be achievable in simpler ways, and that you can pursue those simpler ways with less effort. If you are using money unnecessarily as a How for your goal, you may be making the goal harder.

Michael Linenberger


Master your
Workday Now

Organic task management

One of the key elements that make the
Master your Workday Now
system so organic is that it is based on our mental plans, the way our mind actually works, the way we see and experience time, priorities and urgency. The other element that rocks in this system is the recognition
that most workplaces prioritize by urgency, not importance.

Tension is created when we try to prioritize items by their importance and bump against a workflow that keeps putting urgency ahead, so that our “important” priorities keep being pushed back in time, until we give up on them and simply live managing emergencies. By recognizing urgency and teaching us how
to manage it effectively every day, Michael frees our time and attention, so that we can then address our vision and the goals that inspire us to grow and transform our lives and our world.

Transforming Organizational Goal Setting

There is an aspect of the Master your Workday Now system that has the potential to vastly improve the way we are funding and measuring goals in our organizations and in the
workplace. Michael emphasizes the need to hold the vision at a higher esteem than any human-made numeric measure, for sometimes you can achieve the vision while not achieving the target numbers.

This is true of corporations as well as organizations. But as a corporate
CEO who was a non-profit director in another life, I feel that this system
can prevent a pitfall that I consider tragic in traditional non-profit
funding and its requirements. Sometimes, funders’ obsession with measurable quantities, while intended to ensure effectiveness, may inadvertently thwart the true vision and even the mission of the organizations they are intending to support.

Our rigid focus on quantifiable goals, a remnant of the limited application of the SMART goals, can be expanded with
Master your Workday Now
system. The vision-rich, still measurable and daily workable goals that can come of this shift of perception make the Master your Workday Now system a truly world-transforming tool.

Activating the Law of Attraction in your work day

Though Michael prefers to play this down in favor of focusing on attention~ he has created a system that perfectly aligns with the principles of the Law of Attraction. No wonder it works like magic!


I like Michael’s system so much, that I donated a live coaching session for the lottery he’s offering to those who purchase the book during his book launch.

Read more or purchase this book at:


http://masteryourworkday.com/


Dream Alchemist’s Book Review

****
4 stars. Excellent read. Excellent transformation tool.


This is a great gift for your friends and peers


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resolutions because they can’t find time?

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Maria Mar is an author, speaker and ceremonialist poet. She is also a spiritual teacher and an internationally known shaman who inspires women to manifest the life of their dreams. She offers books, digital products and coaching, art that heals and transforms as well as performances, speaking engagements and other live and online events to help you become the protagonist of your life and the creator of your destiny. Find out more at Catch the Dream Express.

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Living in Freedom Everyday


Dream Alchemist’s Book Review

By Maria Mar



Author: Kenneth Brown with Patrick Borders


Book: L.I.F.E: Living in Freedom Everyday! Six Principles for Successful Living


“To live in freedom, we each must have faith, vision, purpose and passion. In addition, we must take ownership of our lives and associate ourselves with people who will lift us up and not keep us down.”


Kenneth Brown

L.I.F.E.

Living in Freedom Everyday

Six Principles for Successful Living




With this common-sense, down-to-earth system, Kenneth Brown delivers a book that helps you to take ownership of your life, to seek and find your own
blueprint for life. He then teaches you how to use these six simple, but profound principles to activate this blueprint in your daily life. Kenneth delivers his promise.



If you like real life success stories, common sense counsel and a good use of bible wisdom, you will love Kenneth Brown’s book, L.I.F.E: Living in Freedom Everyday! Six Principles for Successful Living.



Ken’s book endeavors to answer this question: “Why is it that so many of us are enslaved to the events of life, while others, like Tawana, are able to live in freedom?” (Tawana is a woman whom Kenneth met at a conference. Lacking both arms and hands, she is a successful woman, wife and leader and a
person living in freedom. That’s just one of the many stories with which Kenneth regales his readers.)



In his book, Kenneth proceeds to answer this question with real life stories, acute observations and bible quotes.


Here are some of my favorite L.I.F.E’s
bites of wisdom:

  • Life, as it turns out, is an inside job. Joy is an inside job.

  • With vision ~spiritual vision that is~ we can see the invisible and do the impossible.

  • Passion manifests itself in boundless enthusiasm.

  • Ownership is about doing all you can, with all you have, from the place you are.

  • When we own up to our lives, we don’t indulge in blaming others. We assume 100 percent responsibility for our thoughts and actions.

  • We become the people we hang with.

  • Faith is the currency of God’s kingdom.


Kenneth has a way of telling biblical stories in a light that
illuminates how intrinsically human they were and how they still apply to our everyday life and human conflicts.



Even though I am not Christian, I enjoyed his bible stories. He retells them to shed light in our own doubts, fears and struggles. As he does this, God’s ancient words come back to life and become once again relevant.



An example of this is his retelling of the story of Moses and his twelve leaders. God had parted the sea and provided them with food during the long journey from Egypt, Kenneth reminds us. Yet upon seeing the fortified cities and the political strength of Canaan, the leaders lost faith. Ken says, “Instead of entering the land of promise, they desired to return to the land of slavery. They desired to return to their comfort zone.” That immediately hits home!



As a master storyteller does, Kenneth weaves case studies and biblical stories to show us how we give away our power to negative expectations, fear, hunger for acceptance, habits and other inner enemies that destroy us and our purpose. He then presents simple shifts of perception, again backed up by stories and real life scenarios that help us release see our circumstances anew.


“We must choose between fear and
faith, because one of those will control our thoughts. Our thoughts control our words. Our words control our actions. Our actions control our character, and our character controls our destiny.”


Kenneth Brown
L.I.F.E.
Living in Freedom Everyday

Six Principles for Successful Living


In speaking about the influence of associations and emotionally toxic environments, Kenneth says: “When people don’t remove themselves from hopeless environments, they lose the energy to play the game of life.”



Kenneth has the ability to see great lessons in daily situations, like when he took his son to a Michigan game and saw how “the spirits of more than 100,000 screaming fans” rose and fell depending on the efforts of the players on the field.” He then sees this as a metaphor for how many people live. “In life everyday, just like in that game, people attach themselves to
the dreams of others. They do it in their careers and in their families. Instead of seeking the peace and joy of living a life of freedom, they pursue happiness through other people.”



If you want to feed your faith so that you can climb mountains and reach your dreams, I highly recommend that you devour this book!




http://www.livinginfreedomeveryday.com/book/


Dream Alchemist’s Book Review

****
4 stars. Excellent read. Excellent transformation tool.

This is a great
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The key to get what you want

The Key to get what you Want

By Maria Mar(c)2009

The Dream Alchemist

  • So you want a new job.
  • You long to live from what you love to do.
  • You want to be invited to a more visible, respected or rewarded professional circle.
  • You want more media attention.
  • You want more money or recognition.
  • You want love.
  • You want health.

Good! It’s great to know what you want.

It’s even better to do something about it. So if you are working hard to make this happen, you should be doubly congratulated. Right?

Not so fast.

I don’t care if you are moving the Appalachian Mountains in order to get what you want. External actions alone will NOT make it happen.

But you may know this already. You’ve worked 12 hour days for months, maybe years, and it does not get any closer. What is missing?

What is missing is internal action.

More specifically, an apparently simple, but essential internal action that most of us ignore, but that is keyl in the alchemy of living well and manifesting our dreams. Few people are aware of it or speak about it.

What is this mysterious internal alchemy that is missing in your tireless efforts?

The internal action of RECEIVING.

As a shaman, author and life coach, I inspire and guide women to create the life of their dreams. In my more than 20 years of working with women and families, I have observed this law:

Look at what you do not have
and you will find what you are not willing to receive.

”Give me a break!” you say. “I’d do anything to get this opportunity. I’ve knocked on so many doors! I’ve sent my resume. I’ve called. It’s just not happening. How can you tell me that I am not receiving it? I am practically begging for it!”

You can work for it. You can request it. You can pray for it. You can network and even hustle for it. But if you are not able and willing to do the internal action of receiving that for which you are praying, it will not happen.

We often mistake our longing and desire, our struggling and efforts with the elements of the Law of Attraction. We believe that by talking about it, working for it and preparing for it we are magnetizing it.

What we do when we neglect this internal action is tantamount to a hostess that invites a guest to her house. For weeks she cleans and decorates the house, shops for food and tells everyone that the guest is coming. But she does not create a space for the guest to stay, and when the guest arrives, she is busy fixing the backyard fence and does not hear the door.

The act of RECEIVING is a six-part internal action.

  1. It is the internal action of making space for what you desire inside you.
  2. It is the receptive act of allowing it to happen.
  3. It is the emotional act of giving yourself permission to have it.
  4. It is the subtle, yet powerful internal act of loving yourself enough to know you deserve it and to enjoy it.
  5. It is also the alchemical act of opening your heart to the world as an ally, recognizing and accepting the allies and opportunities that show up.
  6. Finally, it entails the internal acts of humility and detachment that allow you to hear the Universe’s instructions about the changes you need to undergo in order to be ready for your dream.

All of these actions seem “abstract” only because our society has devalued the Sacred Feminine, the aspect within you that generates internal actions and yields your Receptive Power.

These actions seem unimportant because you believe that you are alone in the world, and that in order for you to have something, you need to manifest it with hard work and lots of effort, AGAINST the current of the universe.

You don’t SEE how the world is already bringing you what you want. You don’t SEE how you are repelling it because you believe that it must be harder or because you don’t trust the way it shows up.

You do not understand the importance of receiving because you are caught up in an illusion of CONTROL. You believe that you are in control of anything that is manifested in your life. You control it by working hard to make it happen. If you are not in control, if it simply shows up easily, gracefully, effortlessly, you do not trust it. You will probably let it go by.

This is a great mistake. It is ignoring the nature of the Universe and the rhythm of the flow of the Law of Attraction. Once you are clear about what you want and begin to take action to manifest it, the Universe immediately begins to work with you. But the Universe, whose consciousness is far vaster than you, feels your areas of resistance, fear and doubt. To address these areas, the Universe may send allies, events or opportunities that are like a laboratory. They may not be exactly what you wanted, but they are a stepping stone for it.

What happens if you are afraid of rejection? What happens if you are defending yourself against what you perceive as criticism? What happens if you secretly feel like the Ugly Duckling and are afraid of flying among the Majestic Swans? What happens if, because of all these issues, you close off to these allies and opportunities, interpreting them as a threat?

You miss the boat. Not because you did not work enough. Not because it didn’t show up on the shores of your desire. But because you REPELLED it.

Here’s a real life story to help you track down how this may be happening in your life.

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The Absent Expert
For years, I heard a woman speaker in my network complaining that she was not invited to speak at certain type of events. She was a friend of a friend, and a very good expert. She seemed extremely competent and professional, though a bit attached to her habit of complaining. I liked what she had to say about the topic and she was indeed better prepared than others who routinely talked on the topic. I wondered why she was not invited to so many events. I observed that she only presented at solo events that she herself organized. She also complained about the hard labor that went into organizing those events.

I had heard her complains for a couple of years, when I was asked to organize one such event for an institution. The topic in which this peer was very competent was key in the event and I felt happy that I finally had the opportunity to invite her. She accepted. Three days before the event, when the publicity had already been sent and the program printed, she called to say that she could not go. On the phone, she gave a flimsy excuse that no one believed. During the conversation, however, she hinted at this and that element of the organization as not to her liking.

This woman had worked hard to become an expert. She had been asking for and complaining about not being invited to such events. But when the opportunity came, her need to control took over and she REPELLED it.

She could only participate in the events she controlled. That is why she was not participating in any other. She could not let go of the mental formula in her head about how her dream should look like enough to receive the actual shape it came in.

By standing us up, she closed the door with me and the other event organizers. She closed the door with the presenting institution, whose members were appalled at her unprofessional behavior. The event was so great that the institution considered doing it annually and the possibility branched out of doing it internationally. She closed those doors too.

She will never know how many doors she closed that day. She will not see the consequences of what she did NOT do except for the continuous absence of those events in her life.

This woman was not able to RECEIVE what she was asking for.

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It is a challenge to develop the radar that allows you to recognize when you are not RECEIVING and when you are REPELLING opportunities. The best policy is to practice the six internal actions of receiving as a life discipline.

Here it is again: The act of RECEIVING is the a six-part internal action.

  1. It is the internal action of making space for what you desire inside you.
  2. It is the receptive act of allowing it to happen.
  3. It is the emotional act of giving yourself permission to have it.
  4. It is the subtle, yet powerful internal act of loving yourself enough to know you deserve it and to enjoy it.
  5. It is also the alchemical act of opening your heart to the world as an ally, recognizing and accepting the allies and opportunities that show up.
  6. Finally, it entails the internal acts of humility and detachment that allow you to hear the Universe’s instructions about the changes you need to undergo in order to be ready for your dream.

The best life policy to get what you want is to let go of your delusion of control and to cultivate unconditional trust in the Universe as your ally. Let go and let God…. and practice RECEIVING.

Light and love,

Maria Mar

The Dream Alchemist

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Relationships and Prosperity

Relationships and Prosperity

By Maria Mar(c)

Prosperity is deeply connected to relationships.

Prosperity is deeply connected to relationships.

Prosperity is deeply connected to relationships because wealth is created as the result of an exchange between people.

What did you learn to expect from strangers? Do you expect others to value you, to remunerate you justly and joyfully, and to trust you?

Or did you learn to expect betrayal, to be cheated or undervalued? Do you expect others to receive you or to reject you?

Carefully examine your expectations about relationships, and you will find the core of your issues with prosperity.

Shifting Beliefs

Here’s a journal writing exercise to help you. Print it and paste the copy in your journal, for easy following.

STEP 1: PREPARATION
Begin with sitting comfortably, your journal and pen in front of you. Breathe deeply and slowly, allowing the air to travel deep into your trunk, all the way down to your lower belly, and exhale as slowly as possible. Do this five times, each time releasing stress from your shoulders, back and face.

STEP 2: INTENTION
Say these words inwardly in your last inhalation, paying attention to each one. Then say them out loud in exhalation, again listening to the sound attentively.

“I welcome the truth of my emotions as guides to my freedom and prosperity. I intend to create new, free ways of connecting to others in the streams of affluence of life.”

STEP 3: EXPECTATIONS
Keep breathing slowly and deeply, allowing the breath to connect you to your body and feelings, as you answer the questions below.

“What do I expect from people, especially those who don’t know me?”

Make a list of a minimum of two and a maximum of five items. Keep the answers short and to the point. Leave ten spaces between each item.

EXAMPLES:

  • I expect people to judge me.
  • I expect people to see my flaws and find me deficient.
  • I expect potential clients to find my prices too high.
  • I expect people in network events not to be interested in me and to forget me.

STEP 4: BELIEFS

Come back to each item.  In breath, ask the second question.

“What belief creates this expectation?”

Write the answer below each item. Again, try to define the belief as simply and exactly as possible.

EXAMPLES:

  • Expectation: I expect people to judge me.
  • Belief: I am guilty of something bad and people will find me out.
  • Expectation: I expect people to see my flaws and find me deficient.
  • Belief: I am not good enough to be loved.
  • Expectation: I expect potential clients to find my prices too high.
  • Belief: People do not appreciate my true value.
  • Expectation:I expect people in network events not to be interested in me and to forget me.
  • Belief: I am not that special.

STEP 5: INHERITANCE

Breathing deeply and slowly, go back to each item and track down from whom and how did you learn this. It may be a family belief that has been passed on through generations verbally or non-verbally. It may be a class, race or cultural belief. It may also be a conclusion you made as a child observing your circumstances. Define the source of each expectation/belief without either blaming or excusing those involved, including you. Skip a line, and place your discovery on the third line below each item, like this:

  • Expectation:I expect people in network events not to be interested in me and to forget me.
  • Belief: I am not that special.
  • Source: My mom always said “Who do you think you are? You are not that special?” She meant to say that I was not above others, but there was also a hidden message that I did not deserve better than others. In my Inner Child’s heart, this voice resonates as “You are not that special.”

STEP 6: ACTIONS

Go back again to each item and recall one habitual action that you do in relationships that responds directly to this belief. Remember to breathe deeply and slowly and honor your emotions. Write the action in the fourth line under the item.

  • Expectation:I expect people in network events not to be interested in me and to forget me.
  • Belief: I am not that special.
  • Source: My mom always said “Who do you think you are? You are not that special?” She meant to say that I was not above others, but there was also a hidden message that I did not deserve better than others. In my Inner Child’s heart, this voice resonates as “You are not that special.”
  • Action: I forget to bring my business cards and I am always apologizing for not having them, that way I have an excuse for why they won’t call me.

STEP 7: FREE CHOICE

Examine the belief and decide whether you are ready and willing to release it.

Once you make the choice, close your eyes. Shift your perception of yourself to your Sacred Self, who is larger than your physical or ego self, and who is one with God.  See that small self with compassion and love. Allow a smile to come from within, as you realize the childlike mistake of these beliefs. From that place, inhale forgiveness and exhale release. Do these three times.

  • Inhale as you wrap yourself in forgiveness.
  • Exhale as you release the old beliefs.

STEP 8: NEW BELIEFS

write down a new belief to substitute each old belief. Skip a line. Write in caps the title “NEW BELIEF” and then write the new belief

It is a fact that there is no other human being like me. My fingerprints are unique. My DNA is unique. My personal history is unique and I am a unique, special and wonderful expression of divinity.

STEP 9: CONSCIOUS LIVING

During the next 30 days, observe yourself in relationships. Catch yourself doing the old actions and methodically shift to the new actions that reflect and nurture your new beliefs.

Remember that these beliefs were implanted in you very early on, when you did not have the experience or ability to discern. They have been embedded through years of practice. Be compassionate with yourself when you respond from the old beliefs, and kindly, but firmly repeat your new belief to yourself and keep choosing the new actions.

Celebrate when you respond from your new beliefs. Your subconscious is like a child. It responds to positive feedback. Focus on the times you do it right and never judge or belittle yourself when you respond from the old beliefs.

Your evolution is not a project. It is process. Patience with yourself nurtures your self-love.

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Prosperity or Poverty: Choose your Mirror

Prosperity or Poverty:

Choose your Mirror


By Maria Mar©2009

A visual storytelling journey

to dispel the thieves of your prosperity.


The meeting got complicated. It would take much of the day. We broke for lunch and I hurried to the bathroom. There I met a fascinating woman. As our lunch hour coincided, we had lunch together in the building’s ground-level cafeteria.

art by Maria Mar(c)2009. No reproduction, copy/paste allowed.

I felt that a strong, peaceful connection had brought us together and was very curious as to the purpose of this encounter. We began to talk with ease.

I was pleasantly surprised when I realized that Lillianne* was a spiritual catalyst whose inspired writings I had read once when I somehow clicked on a link to her blog.

I recalled that she was a wise woman with an extraordinary capacity for deep reflection into the mysteries of existence. In her beautiful writings, I had appreciated her thorough understanding of the Law of Attraction. I especially admired her awareness of how we create our own universe with our thoughts, emotions and choices.

Lillianne and I talked passionately for a while about these topics, which we both loved. But even through the lightness of this lovely conversation, I could feel that a heavy silence weighed on her. Finally, Lillianne could not contain her anguish any longer. She burst out into tears.


The Empty Hands

“I am so scared!” she stuttered between sobs. “I have reached the bottom. I don’t understand how this is happening to me. Ten years ago, I began my own business. You may not believe it looking at me now, but I have earned thousands of dollars in a week. I have charged clients in an hour more than what I am making daily in this job.”

Lillianne was trying hard not to burst into tears again in the crowded cafeteria. We left the noisy place and took refuge in a small lobby, where a sofa nested inside a niche was conveniently hidden by a group of tall palms and other potted plants.

We sat, wrapped in heavy silence, now broken only by some quiet sobs. Lillianne stared at her empty hands.

I remembered a time in which I also stared at my empty hands. I had lost everything I had in a bizarre housing disaster. I had to leave all my art and tools, my clothing and most of my possessions behind. I had no idea where I would go. As I recovered my health in a friend’s guest room, I had stared at my hands, empty after so many years of giving the best of my creativity.

In the deeply carved lines, I had read my past. I faced the war I waged against money. I recognized how I spent it as soon as I got it, as if it burned my hands. I realized that I had not created financial structures, strategies or goals in my life. It was a brutal encounter with realities that I had disregarded for most of my adult life. This disregard had lead to that moment, in which I had no emergency money or financial alternatives to recover from this crisis.

“Is this a lesson I must learn? Am I being cleansed of ego?” Lillianne asked abruptly. Her voice reminded me of a little girl who has been punished and is trying to understand what she did wrong. But there was someone else in that voice: the punisher herself, flagellating Lillianne in each of her questions.


Only for Love

“I was so broke that I had to place a PayPal button in my blog. Imagine? I had to ask my subscribers for donations!” Lillianne said, as if that was the ultimate perversion.

Lillianne was thankful that her 10,000 subscribers had sent her so many blessings and kind words and had given her generous donations, which kept her afloat for about a month. But her monthly obligations had to be met, and she had finally caved in. Her eyes were wide with terror.

“I admit that my relationship with money has not been good. There’s a lot of guilt attached to it. I played the starving artist for most of my youth. And now, it appears that I am playing the starving guru,” she whispered with a faint smile.

Lillianne exhaled a pain-ridden sight that traveled through my bones. I tried to piece together the two opposite images I was receiving from the same woman.

Lillianne had shared that her subscribers were very active and often responded to her articles. During our conversation in the cafeteria, she had told me, with badly concealed pride, that her subscribers had suggested that she charge a subscription fee for the blog. When she refused, some suggested that she
offer an upgraded service, with more support and inspiration, for a monthly fee. Lillianne had refused to do that, too.

“I am not doing this blog to get money,” Lillianne had said, almost angry. “This is for love. To inspire.”

I had assumed then that she had devised other means of earning money. After all, she had coached corporations and organizations and had impressive recommendations about her work.

Now, however, I realized that this Rich-Wise-Woman had not created a strategy to earn money. Instead, she had fed her “Poor-but-Good” Shadow Self.


The War Against Money

As I handed Lillianne some tissues, I asked her how she had planned to earn money from the time she invested in her blog.

“No, not from the blog,” she insisted. “I don’t want to charge for that.”

“I got that,” I replied as gently as I could.

I did not want Lillianne to think that I was blaming or judging her. Quiet the contrary. I strongly empathized with her. I had similar Personal Medicines to Lillianne. It followed that I had been given similar emotional wounds in which to hide ―and find― these Medicines.

“But you have a business, don’t you?” I softly asked. “What monetization strategies do you have for your business?”

“I sell products,” Lillianne said defensively. As I had a laptop, she asked me to open it and soon she was showing me her products.

“I have two books, two CDs and several other products,” Lillianne showed me with a trickle of enthusiasm. I could see that she had put a lot of love in these products. I could also see that she sold them piece-meal, without a sense of a system or philosophy that integrated them and added the value of her unique offering.

“But the sales trickle in and do not even cover the business expenses,” Lillianne concluded, as she clicked out of her “Store” tab and into her “About Lillianne” tab.

In her biography, Lillianne had gone into a lengthy monologue about life. I liked her style to a point, because I could hear her voice. But I had no idea of what she could do for me, what her services where, what system of philosophy, if any she had, and what her unique offer was to me. She had wrapped herself in her beautiful, creative words, but remained a lonely island separated from her products and from her capacity to satisfy the growing needs of her readers.

Little by little, I got a picture of Lillianne’s business. Her blog was a plain template with not as much as a header. There was no branding there. I could not get a sense of who she was or the uniqueness of her gifts. Having felt her warmth and caring love, it seemed a pity that these qualities were not reflected in her blog.

She had no social media presence or links and no adsense or google ads. She had no affiliate program, so she could not earn income through joint venture partnerships and affiliate sales, either.

Why had Lillianne refused her clients’ request? Why hadn’t she created a paid monthly support, even though they had expressed their need for this?

It wasn’t that hard to create protected blog pages for paying subscribers, and she could still delivered the free access pages she was writing now.

Her clients were ready and eager to participate in deeper conversation, to receive her guidance. Instead, Lillianne had continued her long-lasting conversation with the world in her blog, refusing to monetize her writings.


Not for Sale

A light bulb turned on. I understood too well Lillianne’s resistance. I had been given a devastating message as a teenager, when my mom stopped giving me lunch money so that I would not stay in college for rehearsals. That was her way of trying to stop me from pursuing my acting career. This had also been the beginning of my eating disorders, as I had stayed for rehearsals, forsaking lunch and dinners for days on a row, until I was severely undernourished.

The price for self-loyalty, I had learned, was poverty. That had been the beginning of a war between creativity and prosperity. This war went on for decades during my adult life. I knew from experience how insidious this polarity could be.

In the ten years of healing my issues with money, I had tracked down how deeply and invisibly one can sabotage one’s prosperity in the most absurd ways without even realizing it. It came as no surprise to me, then, that Lillianne had not charged for her creative, spiritual writings.

I could now touch the heart of the matter. I found Lillianne’s tiny orphan-self, hiding behind her wise words. She was a little girl seeking belonging, giving endlessly of her vast gifts in an effort to be loved.

Lillianne was not valuing her wisdom as a service that she gave to others for their benefit. She had written some words in her blog that said this. But she was not living it. She did not believe it.

Perhaps when she went to a corporation and did a workshop she saw herself as giving a service. But not from her Essence, not from her writings ―from her

creativity. In her eyes, to use her words as a service and charge for it would have been to betray her soul.

Lillianne’s underground orphanhood and her war with money were sabotaging her life’s purpose.


The Cloak of Ghosts

Lillianne had not released the Cloak of Ghosts. Many of us inherit this heavy mantle of learned beliefs and toxic emotions from our elders. It is passed to us by our family of origin and culture. Lillianne’s Cloak of Ghosts was filled with guilt, shame and anger against money and attachment to poverty, which she saw as proof of goodness.

  • Love vs. power

  • Spirituality vs. money

  • Creativity vs. service

  • Creativity vs. prosperity

  • Honesty vs. authority

These were only a few of the battles in Lillianne’s Inner War.

Lillianne got up and threw the crumbled tissues into a nearby garbage can. I felt that her hopes were as crumbled as the tissues and my heart felt heavy for her. She swept some crumbs off her overall uniform and picked up her dirty maintenance globes.

As we returned to the fifth floor, she waived a sad goodbye and returned to the toilets left to clean.


The Two Mirrors

As Lillianne moved away, I saw a woman in war with herself. This woman had looked into two different mirrors and had secretly chosen the familiar one, though it in no way reflected her Essence.

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The Poverty Mirror

In the mirror she had secretly chosen, Lillianne was an abandoned, unloved orphan trapped in poverty.

Guided by guilt and fear, she had erected an unforgiving God-parent who stripped her of “ego” (her own desires, her power to manifest, her true value?) by punishing her with a poverty that in no way reflected her inner richness.

The true punishment was however, self-inflicted. Lillianne refused to charge for the services she came here to give. Instead, she had chosen to beg for them.

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In the mirror that reflected her Essence, Lillianne was a Wise Woman, a radiant being full of wisdom-treasures.

She had the rare courage to dive deep into her Soul and to bring from those depths unfathomable riches searched and needed by millions.

Her hands were filled with plenty. Her life could but reflect her inner riches and her generosity of spirit.

For now, the orphan had won this battle. But by now I knew Lillianne. I knew that she would push against the bottom and rise in full majesty.


Hands filled to the rim

I looked at my hands then and remembered that day in my friend’s guest room, when I stared at my empty hands.

In those deeply carved lines, I had read my present. I had seen the extraordinary value of the wisdom that had been handed me. I had traced the grace of my words and my art. I had weighted the substance of my gifts.

My hands were not empty. They were filled to the rim with valuable wisdom, tools andinspiration. They had been  bestowed to me with the charge to pass them on.

That day I had created my business, firmly founded on my writings, my art and my spiritual wisdom.

As the bathroom door swallowed Lillianne, I sent her a blessing.

May you look at your emptyhands and see the treasures overflowing.

May you value each word of wisdom that flows from your lips and hands as a sacred treasure with the power to transform the world.

May you receive the river of affluence that flows right now from the Universe to you. May you allow it to shower you in prosperity.

May you open your heart to receive the riches you already have.

I hold this blessing in my heart, for myself.

I send it to each of you in these challenging times, with the invitation to choose the mirror that reflects your richness and release the fear that drags you into a place of fear and lack.

Light and love, Maria Mar
The Dream Alchemist

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Raising the Prosperity Ceiling

Raising the Prosperity Ceiling

Are you bumping against your Prosperity Ceiling?

Are you bumping against your Prosperity Ceiling?

Are you held down by your Prosperity Ceiling? This is the maximum amount of money and the default prosperity exchange that you are able to receive emotionally for your work.

The Prosperity Ceiling is your hidden, unconscious expectation about prosperity. The Prosperity Ceiling was created in your emotional space during early childhood and adolescence. No matter how hard you chase your own vision of prosperity, if you do not break this invisible ceiling, you will stay within its parameters.

If you grew up in an environment where the money people earned came from exchanging dollar for hours and working for somebody else, chances are that this environment became part of your Prosperity Ceiling. It may be emotionally connected with safety, security, stability and survival.

In this case, working for yourself may evoke terror. It may feel as too risky. Perhaps you have seen that working for someone else does not go well with you. You are fiercely independent. You have a clear life purpose. You  hold your freedom in high regard. These are the qualities of an entrepreneur. Knowing this, you create your own business or work as a free-lance or consultant. Everything finally falls into place.

But the Prosperity Ceiling you inherited says that the choice you’ve made is too risky. Your learned beliefs hold that if you choose independence, you will not be stable, that your survival may be at stake and you will not make as much money. In this case, your free-choice is at war with your Prosperity Ceiling.

This hidden belief may have zipped into your conscious mind. You may hold it as a fact. In this case, you have an expectation of instability and of earning less money because of your choice. The Universe will respond, as it always does, by fulfilling your expectations.

The hidden belief, however, may have remained in your unconscious. In this case, you may consciously believe that you can acquire greater wealth doing what you want as an independent business or consultant. You are determined to create wealth through your choice. But your unconscious has different expectations. It is holding on to the Prosperity Ceiling and will not allow you to surpass it.

If you realize that your prosperity dreams are crashing against your Prosperity Ceiling, here’s the recipe to Raise the Ceiling.

STEPS TO RAISE YOUR PROSPERITY CEILING

Break the limits of your Prosperity Ceiling!

Break the limits of your Prosperity Ceiling!

Step 1: Examine and release your Inner War

Track down what goals and values are at war within you. If you are at war, you are wasting your energy running from one extreme to the other, from one value to its opposite, and you won’t move ahead.

Examples of Inner Wars:

  • prosperity vs. freedom
  • goodness vs. money
  • acceptance vs. wealth
  • power vs. love
  • security vs. independence

2. Examine and release your Inner Crusades.

Are you in a holy war against values or realities that you attach to wealth or success? You can’t have money if you hate it. You won’t have money if you think it’s bad.

Examples of Inner Crusades:

  • Capitalism is bad and all capitalists are thiefs.
  • Wealthy people are selfish people who stock money and don’t contribute to others’ life.
  • Poor people are good and honest. They are MY people.
  • BIG money enslaves you and is the enemy of your freedom.
  • BIG money means corruption.

3. Examine your emotional resonance in connection to wealth.

The Prosperity Ceiling may not be obvious. You may think that you believe that you have a right to be wealthy and happy. But your Emotional Undertow may be swimming with fear and toxic beliefs around money that you are not aware of. Many people who grew up poor HATE money. That’s right. They want it. They are hungry for it, but they HATE it. In their Emotional Undertow, money is a father that abandoned them, leaving them to their fate. Money is what the OTHERS have that they don’t. Money is their enemy.

Unless you become aware of your emotions and the vibrational frequency they create, you may not realize that your Emotional Undertow is pulling you away from the shores of your dreams of prosperity.

  1. Hold the largest bill you have available on your hands while seating comfortably.
  2. Breathe deeply and slowly for about 5 minutes, emptying your mind and simply looking at the bill.
  3. Become aware of the vibration your body is emitting. It may feel as a buzz or spiraling of energy in and around you. It may sound like a far away radio frequency.
  4. Seat quietly listening to it.
  5. Imagine that the bill multiplies. If it was a $10 bill, visualize that it is now a $100 bill.
  6. Listen to the vibrational frequency. How does it change? Is it becoming stronger and more harmonious, or more dissonant and violent?
  7. Imagine again that the bill multiples, so that the $100 bill is not $1,000.
  8. Go back to feeling the vibrational frequency.
  9. Keep raising the amount of the bill and observing how the frequency changes.
  10. Your Prosperity Ceiling creates dissonance in your vibrational frequency, as defensive emotions and deeply imbedded beliefs rear their ugly heads to repel and fight greater abundance.

Know how low or high is your Prosperity Ceiling. Use the following practices daily to increase your threshold everyday.

  • Affirmations
  • Meditation
  • Emotional Release
  • Active Receiving
  • Energy work (yoga, tai chi, pranic healing, acupuncture, etc.)

With steady work, you will be able to Raise your Prosperity Ceiling.

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The Real Tragedy of Drama Queens

The real tragedy of Drama Queens

By Maria Mar(c)

When you are trapped in your habitual Soap Opera Dramas, you are self-involved to the point that you miss sight of three vital things: your surroundings, other people and your goals. Here is the real tragedy of the Drama Queen.

1. She wastes precious emotional fuel going around in circles.

2. She wastes time and resources going around in circles.

3. She alienates allies, healthy peers and healthy partners with her self-involved, ineffective and habitual dysfunctional scripts.

4. She leaks prosperity, loses clients and wastes money.

5. She adopts the pose of an ineffective, disorganized and unprofessional woman.

6. She fails to see how she is creating stress in those around her.

7. She misrepresents her business or capacity and creates situations where she will not be promoted or hired.

8. She dumps her toxic drama on her loved ones and creates terrible stress on her family, especially her partner and children.

9. She repels her children and partner, who need to move away from her in order to grow and function healthily.

10. She uses her drama to manipulate others, as an ineffective attempt to control the situation and to beg for attention.

11. She uses her power to sabotage her dream as she runs hysterically on the same spot, until she digs her own grave.

12. Because she creates high levels of stress that lead to hypertension, heart attack, muscle spasms, anxiety attacks, stomach trouble, ulcers, brain tumors, cancer, strokes and more. Make your choice.

Would you rather be a Drama Queen or act as the genuine, powerful Queen of your own life and Dream?

SOLUTION:

If you choose to be the real queen, here is one quick, easy way to stop your Drama before it catches momentum.

The minute you see yourself spinning into your Drama, say out loud to yourself: “STOP!”

Then breathe deeply and slowly. As you exhale, say firmly and clearly, without drama: “There is no drama. I am clear and there is no problem.”

As soon as you regain your center, become aware of how you have lost your compass.

  1. See how you are affecting those around you,
  2. See how you have deviated from your goal, and
  3. See how you are creating chaos or anxiety in your situation.

Now proceed to calmly re-focus on your goal or the solution of the problem, sustaining a centered, calming mood and consciously spreading it around.

EXAMPLE:
Let’s say that your usual drama is losing the car keys before going out.You enter a frenzy and send everyone spinning for the keys, just to find them 20 minutes later where you have left them misplaced the night before.

The minute you see yourself spinning that drama, say “STOP” to yourself, energetically and firmly (without involving others in the drama).

Then breathe deeply and slowly. As you exhale, say to yourself: “There is no drama. I am clear and there is no problem.”

Observe how you have lost your compass: Perhaps your family is already tense at the prospect of yet another crazy moment before going out and the anticipation of being late to their appointments. Perhaps by getting into this anxiety rollercoaster, you are neglecting to check that you have what you need for today’s presentation, so that you will sabotage yourself getting there late and unprepared. Perhaps you are creating chaos and stress in your daily life by all these little dramas. RELEASE that choice and embrace Inner Peace.

Now proceed to calmly retrace your steps the last time you place your keys when you got home.

I hope this helps you!

Stop by and leave your comments as things begin to change and you occupy the throne of your true queendom!

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