Relationships and Prosperity

Relationships and Prosperity

By Maria Mar(c)

Prosperity is deeply connected to relationships.

Prosperity is deeply connected to relationships.

Prosperity is deeply connected to relationships because wealth is created as the result of an exchange between people.

What did you learn to expect from strangers? Do you expect others to value you, to remunerate you justly and joyfully, and to trust you?

Or did you learn to expect betrayal, to be cheated or undervalued? Do you expect others to receive you or to reject you?

Carefully examine your expectations about relationships, and you will find the core of your issues with prosperity.

Shifting Beliefs

Here’s a journal writing exercise to help you. Print it and paste the copy in your journal, for easy following.

Begin with sitting comfortably, your journal and pen in front of you. Breathe deeply and slowly, allowing the air to travel deep into your trunk, all the way down to your lower belly, and exhale as slowly as possible. Do this five times, each time releasing stress from your shoulders, back and face.

Say these words inwardly in your last inhalation, paying attention to each one. Then say them out loud in exhalation, again listening to the sound attentively.

“I welcome the truth of my emotions as guides to my freedom and prosperity. I intend to create new, free ways of connecting to others in the streams of affluence of life.”

Keep breathing slowly and deeply, allowing the breath to connect you to your body and feelings, as you answer the questions below.

“What do I expect from people, especially those who don’t know me?”

Make a list of a minimum of two and a maximum of five items. Keep the answers short and to the point. Leave ten spaces between each item.


  • I expect people to judge me.
  • I expect people to see my flaws and find me deficient.
  • I expect potential clients to find my prices too high.
  • I expect people in network events not to be interested in me and to forget me.


Come back to each item.  In breath, ask the second question.

“What belief creates this expectation?”

Write the answer below each item. Again, try to define the belief as simply and exactly as possible.


  • Expectation: I expect people to judge me.
  • Belief: I am guilty of something bad and people will find me out.
  • Expectation: I expect people to see my flaws and find me deficient.
  • Belief: I am not good enough to be loved.
  • Expectation: I expect potential clients to find my prices too high.
  • Belief: People do not appreciate my true value.
  • Expectation:I expect people in network events not to be interested in me and to forget me.
  • Belief: I am not that special.


Breathing deeply and slowly, go back to each item and track down from whom and how did you learn this. It may be a family belief that has been passed on through generations verbally or non-verbally. It may be a class, race or cultural belief. It may also be a conclusion you made as a child observing your circumstances. Define the source of each expectation/belief without either blaming or excusing those involved, including you. Skip a line, and place your discovery on the third line below each item, like this:

  • Expectation:I expect people in network events not to be interested in me and to forget me.
  • Belief: I am not that special.
  • Source: My mom always said “Who do you think you are? You are not that special?” She meant to say that I was not above others, but there was also a hidden message that I did not deserve better than others. In my Inner Child’s heart, this voice resonates as “You are not that special.”


Go back again to each item and recall one habitual action that you do in relationships that responds directly to this belief. Remember to breathe deeply and slowly and honor your emotions. Write the action in the fourth line under the item.

  • Expectation:I expect people in network events not to be interested in me and to forget me.
  • Belief: I am not that special.
  • Source: My mom always said “Who do you think you are? You are not that special?” She meant to say that I was not above others, but there was also a hidden message that I did not deserve better than others. In my Inner Child’s heart, this voice resonates as “You are not that special.”
  • Action: I forget to bring my business cards and I am always apologizing for not having them, that way I have an excuse for why they won’t call me.


Examine the belief and decide whether you are ready and willing to release it.

Once you make the choice, close your eyes. Shift your perception of yourself to your Sacred Self, who is larger than your physical or ego self, and who is one with God.  See that small self with compassion and love. Allow a smile to come from within, as you realize the childlike mistake of these beliefs. From that place, inhale forgiveness and exhale release. Do these three times.

  • Inhale as you wrap yourself in forgiveness.
  • Exhale as you release the old beliefs.


write down a new belief to substitute each old belief. Skip a line. Write in caps the title “NEW BELIEF” and then write the new belief

It is a fact that there is no other human being like me. My fingerprints are unique. My DNA is unique. My personal history is unique and I am a unique, special and wonderful expression of divinity.


During the next 30 days, observe yourself in relationships. Catch yourself doing the old actions and methodically shift to the new actions that reflect and nurture your new beliefs.

Remember that these beliefs were implanted in you very early on, when you did not have the experience or ability to discern. They have been embedded through years of practice. Be compassionate with yourself when you respond from the old beliefs, and kindly, but firmly repeat your new belief to yourself and keep choosing the new actions.

Celebrate when you respond from your new beliefs. Your subconscious is like a child. It responds to positive feedback. Focus on the times you do it right and never judge or belittle yourself when you respond from the old beliefs.

Your evolution is not a project. It is process. Patience with yourself nurtures your self-love.


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Romantic Love- Meet its Seven Faces

The Dream Alchemist about:

The 7 Faces of Romantic Love

Do you know the faces of love?

Sunday, February 15, 2009.

Free Admission

Brunch starts at 1PM Conversation starts at 3PM

This roses are for you. Happy Valentine Day!

These roses are for you. Happy Valentine!

I invite all New Yorkers to meet me for a live talk on Sunday, February 15 (NY), we will talk in-depth about this topic, 7 Faces of Romantic Love.

I’ll mention the 7 Faces of Romantic Love here, so that you get a taste of what we will talk about.

During the conversation, I will talk about what I am seeing in couples today for each face, and the light and shadow aspects of each face. I will answer questions. You will be able to share your experiences and observations in a warm, friendly, respectful and relaxed atmosphere. Come at 1PM if you want brunch.

For those out of New York, I will answer the first 7 questions sent to me this week, FREE. Read link at the bottom of the message.

Let’s take a look at the 7 aspects of love that must be in balance if we want to keep, nurture or attract our Soulmate. Even before that. To cultivate this 7 aspects in our own life and self-love, creates happiness and fulfillment.

Face No. 1: Intimacy

Intimacy is the meeting of two souls that bare themselves to each other in deep, intimate communication. It is the process and act of connecting at a profound level, taking the social mask off and sharing your Essence. It includes honest communication at a verbal level. Beyond the verbal, it includes loving, tender communication at the physical level in what we call Cariño in Spanish, the tender touch. At a deeper level, it includes soulful communication in the silent presence, the eyes that journey into each other, the embrace of the souls. I will share an exercise to deepen intimacy.

Face No 2: Friendship

A love relationship is different from a friendship. That much is obvious. But a love relationship that does not include friendship is not love. Why? Because friendship includes several essential things to love: support, trust and commitment. These three elements are essential to be able to share intimacy, passion, romance and sex. Especially for women, who do not separate the physical and the emotional as easy as men (thank Goddess!) friendship is essential in romance. But for men, too, it is healthy. If your lover is not your friend, the “love” can turn to hate quite easily. We will talk about the obstacles to friendship in modern relationships.

Face No. 3: Honoring

There is no stronger aphrodisiac than naming what you like, love, respect and admire in your lover. Honoring your beloved’s qualities, naming her or his Essence and communicating your appreciation for those tiny things that are not so tiny because they make all the difference; this is central to cultivating love, and one of the faces of romantic love that is most neglected. I will talk about why this face is neglected and how to do this.

Face No. 4: Passion

Ah, so you are rubbing your hands. Finally we are getting to sex! No. Sorry to slow you down, but not yet. Passion is only indirectly connected to sex. You need to know what passion is because it is the source of magic in a relationship. Passion is your life force as it celebrates and responds vibrantly to life and love. Passion is your love for life, your capacity to be fully present, awaken and active in your dance with life and love. Passion is the colors of love. Passion makes you the creator. It motivates you. It gives you the desire to cultivate your love each day. It magnetizes your beloved. It makes you sexy and enhances your charisma. When you free your passion, you become a party! We will talk about what enhances and what kills passion in a relationship and we will share ideas on how to express our passion.

Face No. 5: Romance

Oh, I LOOOOVE romance. I am a romantic at heart. True, honest romance is the dance of two souls embodied in a sensual body. It is the courtship ceremony of two wild creatures. It is the dance of the Peacocks showing off their beautiful feathers. When you romance your beloved, you take off the social dress that covers your Essence and show your true, best self. You listen deeply to and receive the Essence of the beloved. Romance is a celebration of love. It is the act of opening a space and time in your life for the other, and a commitment to make your life together one full of magic, meaning, sensuality and love. We will share ways to romance life, which is the only way to be a true romantic.

Face No. 6: Sensuality

In our modern society we get to the Face No. 7 too quickly, jumping all the Faces. We want the dessert before we have the appetizer. The result is indigestion. We are so oriented towards results that we miss the experience. As a result, the quality of sex often diminishes. Cultivate sensuality as a language that emerges during the faces of passion and romance, leading to sex, and then becomes the texture of sex. Sensuality is the wild, organic language of the body married to the artful language of poetry. It uses words as the color to paint a landscape that invites and delights the senses. It uses touch as the brush. It uses sound as the stroke that paints that landscape. We will play a game to explore our sensual, poetic nature.

Face No. 7: Sex

Okay, so we are finally here. Romantic love sets us on fire, and the blaze where we burn is the sexual encounter. Sex is never just sex. Hear this, especially you guys!! Sex is a human emotion, need and expression. It goes deeper than skin. If it stays on the surface, it is not satisfying and leaves you more hungry than when you started. If you’ve cultivated the other faces of romantic love, then sex can be ecstatic. It is the  Sacred Union of the God and Goddess within the couple. It merges all of who you are: mind, body, emotions, soul, spirit, in an ecstatic union that is the earthy experience of the ecstasy of spiritual Oneness. In its ultimate expression, sex is a path to enlightenment. While we get there, it’s lots of fun and warms our heart and thighs. That’s a lot of miracle wrapped into one encounter. No wonder it rocks! I will bring a basket with sexual secrets from the Goddess to give you a headstart!

So, join us on Sunday, February 15 to learn more and share more about the 7 Faces of Romantic Love.

For those out of NY, I will answer the first 7 questions sent to me this week, FREE!

Post question here. Let me know it's for the 7 Faces of Romantic Love.

Post question here.

Let me know that your question is for the 7 Faces of Romantic Love.

The 7 Faces of Romantic Love is a Medicine Talk, conversation and brunch in New York with shaman Maria Mar. Bring your date or your beloved. Bring single friends to meet other singles. It will be at the French-type cafe Samba Bakery Cafe, where delicious croissants and crepes are healthy, too. For more information, visit:

DATE: Sunday, February 15, the day after St. Valentine.

TIME: Brunch begins at 1PM. Talk begins at 3PM. Free admission.

OPEN TO: All adults who believe in romantic love!

PLACE: Samba Bakery-Cafe in East Harlem, NY

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Samba is my hang-out place and the hang-out of many poets, artists and musicians. Why? Youssef Samba, the award-winning best French pastry chef in New York, is committed to health and at the same time creates true works of tasty art. His desserts and pastries have no preservatives, no chemicals and no additives. Did I forget to mention that he has the best prices in town?

Take a look at the tasty delights at Samba.

What else could you possible want? Oh, yes. Great music and warm environment.

Youssef just told me that he’ll have delicious crepes, muffins, croissants and waffles for breakfast. Add great cappuccino and teas. At great prices!

That’s it. Join me for a great time and a romantic journey that will enhance your love life.

Light and love,
Maria Mar
The Dream Alchemist

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Want a romantic story?

Set Yourself on Fire!

A true story of my journey through love.

Read it here.

Did you miss our Venus Dream Basket ceremony?

Here are two blog entries that will guide you in the creation of your Venus Dream Basket, to awaken the Diva within and attract or nurture your Soulmate.

Awaken your Venus Gifts

Create a Venus Dream Basket.

About Maria Mar, the Dream Alchemist
Maria Mar is a a new renaissance woman who has freed her vast creative power through her training as a Woman of Power. She is a published author, visual artist, life coach and book writing coach. She is also an internationally known shaman and spiritual teacher. As a dance-theatre performer, Maria has been featured in PBS, Channel 13 for her innovative work. She has also been featured in BronxNet television and numerous radio stations such as WBAI, WKCR (Columbia University Station), WADO (Spanish Radio), Brooklyn College Radio Station and La Nueva Onda 1190, among others.Maria has taught creative writing for more than 15 years. She has brandished creativity and the arts as tools for life transformation and specializes in personal growth through the arts and freeing the creative process.

She has published half a dozen books, among them the Dream Kit (inspirational novel and workbook) and is the CEO of ShamansDance Publishing and Productions. Maria is available for engaging speaking presentations in which she uses dance-theatre and poetry as ceremonies of empowerment and to communicate the principles of female leadership. Read full biography.

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